Pregnant women with four other kids

Dezre - posted on 07/17/2016 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Hey mothers im due for pregnancy in october but i have no job or support how do i get a job

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/18/2016

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Get your story straight OP!

You blatantly state that you need a job, yet you SCREAM A RESPONSE to Jodi saying you have a job! In one post your man is in jail, yet in another he is out and you're getting married...do you live in some sort of time warp here?

Ev - posted on 07/17/2016

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Dezre--You have to understand that your OP did not have much information just asking what to do for a job because you had no support for the kids and no income with another on the way. They are going to read it as you are just continuing to have kids without thinking about what you are doing. If you had added dad was in jail and was the only one they would have maybe answered differently. I hope the job works for you but you should be aware they could turn around and let you go too.

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Dove - posted on 07/18/2016

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She has no job and no support... then 5 hours later (cuz I was following this yesterday and 5 hours after she posted the OP she had a job) she DOES have a job. Dad is in jail, but they are going to get married (so he must be getting out of jail soon..?). And questioning the OP because she's not making any sense leads to hissy fits...

Did I miss anything?

Michelle - posted on 07/18/2016

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The OP and the other posts don't add up.
Dezre: I suggest actually reading what you first wrote. You can see why you got the responses you got. Just a bit of advice, write all the information in the original post, that way you will get the advice you are looking for.

Ev - posted on 07/18/2016

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{where is there dads i only have one father of my children i dont ask him for help cause hes in jail}

Dezre posted this way down in one of her responses to me about where dad is and why she never asked for support. Now she is going to marry him? It makes no sense unless he has gotten out and is going to marry her.

Jodi - posted on 07/18/2016

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You don't need to yell. You said you had no support and no job. Of course I assumed you had no job and the father wasn't around...and you were not a working mother. What part of that are you not understanding? I wasn't disrespecting you. I was responding to your initial post about your circumstances. Now you have a job and you are marrying the father of your children? So how do you have no job and not have support? And how is it insulting that I insinuated you have more than one father to your children? I am not criticising you for having more than one father to your babies (whether that is or is not the case), but was QUESTIONING the lack of support you were receiving from the father/s of your children (given you said you had no support). When you say you are not receiving support, it is assumed you have no financial support other than your own job.....which, in your initial post, you didn't have (but 1 day later you DO have).

Dezre - posted on 07/18/2016

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Jodi after i just let u know my kids has one father u still choose to disrespect im tring to figure out a way to delete this now second i am a MOTHER A WORKING MOTHER IM ON TO THE NEXT JOB I HAD MY FIRST CHILD AT 15 AND HAVE BEEN WORKING SINCE I WAS 16 ME AND MY SOON TO BE HUSBAND GRADUATED TOGETHER WENT TO COLLEGE AND HAD MORE I THOUGHT THIS WAS A UNDERSTANDING. CIRCLE SEEMS TO ME ITS NOT U JODI HAVE A BLESS DAY IM OMW TO MY NEW JOB AT ANOTHER HOSPITAL GOOD BYE U WONT SEE THIS ANYMORE WHEN I FIND A WAY TO DELETE. IT

Jodi - posted on 07/17/2016

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You said you had no job. So I don't think it was unreasonable that I assumed you don't have work. You can't say you are a mother who works if you don't have a job. You are the one who asked. It's great that since you posted this you seem to have found something, but it also isn't unreasonable to suggest it will be hard to find one this late in your pregnancy.

With regard to the rest...again, why is the father/fathers of these children not financially supporting you all?

Dezre - posted on 07/17/2016

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I know it but i was completely honest with them and they are willing to let me work untill i deliver and i also get to come back after my 6 weeks are up

Dezre - posted on 07/17/2016

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Well thank u Ev Witt for putting it that way and i was talking about jodi and i just left my job today i have money saved and i got a call today and a guarantee. Job at a different hospital and i let them know how far along i was and at the end of the day a opinion is a opinion but its all in the way it was said like where is there dads i only have one father of my children i dont ask him for help cause hes in jail second all om saying if u gonna be rude about the opinion y put it on here but im deleting my circle u all have a bless day

Ev - posted on 07/17/2016

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Dezre--All they are saying as that being half way through your pregnancy it is going to be hard to find a job that would be willing to hire you with you having to take 6 weeks off to heal from a birth. Not many places will hire a pregnant woman especially this far along. Also, you need to start checking with Department of Human services for WIC for your kids and you, food stamps, medicaid for insurance, HUD for rental assistance, churches in your area that help out with food pantries and assist with utilities. We can not give you specific resources as we do not know where you live or know what they have available. But I do agree that maybe you should think about birth control until you can find yourself in a position to be able to handle the financial end of raising kids.

Michelle - posted on 07/17/2016

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Like I said, I personally wouldn't hire someone who was pregnant. The time it takes to train someone just for them to leave and have to find someone else isn't worth it.
I wasn't judgmental, just realistic. I am a manager and hire people, that's just my thoughts.
Not knowing what country you are in means we don't know what resources are available to you. This is an international site.

Dezre - posted on 07/17/2016

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Wow yall agree on that i have a set of twin and im a MOTHER WHO WORKS and my children only have one dad didnt know u guys opinion could be so judge mental and no i dont believe in abortion nor adoption wow i thought u would throw resources. ...nvm i will delete my circle outta here if its gone be harsh you guys really think if i have 4 kids i have alotta babydaddies i only have 1 and i have a interview tomorrow

Jodi - posted on 07/17/2016

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Seriously, you have 4 kids, no way of supporting them and you get pregnant again? I would strongly consider adopting this child out and then finding some effective birth control. To be honest, getting a job at this later stage of pregnancy is going to be nearly impossible. Where are the fathers of all these children and why are they not paying support?

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