Premature baby Please Help

Jessica - posted on 10/29/2009 ( 50 moms have responded )

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I have a really good friend that is in hospital with pre-eclampsia. She is 32 weeks at the moment and her BP has climed and her protien trippled in the last week.



I dont know what i can do for her, she is very down and upset and worried as you would be. The doctors are hoping she can make it till sunday for her next steroid dose.



Is there anyone out there with some good and hopeful stories about premmy babies at 32 weeks that i could then tell my friend to give her some hope?!

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I have a wonderful 7 month old preemie who is now 14 pounds. He was born at 32 weeks because I had severe PreE. My son only weighed 2 pounds, 14 ounces because I'd apparently had PreE for a while before my pressure spiked and my protein levels went through the roof, so he was growth restricted. However, he was never on oxygen or a ventilator, and the only problems he had were jaundice in the first 2 days and a few episodes of bradycardia (unexplained dips or jumps in heartrate). He came home after just 5 weeks in the NICU, and he is already jumping in a bouncy seat, eating baby food, trying to crawl, looking at pictures in books, babbling, and doing all sorts of things. We were warned about a lot of issues, but we've been very blessed. That said, every preemie is different. We have been extremely lucky and extremely blessed. It's been a hard road, nevertheless. He wouldn't breastfeed, so I exclusively pumped for several months. And it's probably the most excruciating pain ever to leave your baby in the hospital when you go home. But it does end, and you bring home this tiny, wonderful bundle who changes everything. My heart goes out to her-I remember the sinking feeling I had when I knew my son was going to get here 8 weeks early, like it or not. But my son is just fine, and I heard so many stories of families like mine right after Colin was born that bolstered my confidence. If she's on CoM, or plans to be later, please ask her to contact me if she wants or needs anyone to talk to who has been there, and to join "Moms of Preemies" for support from other preemie moms. I wish you all the best and hope you'll be back on this board soon to tell us she has a healthy baby. My thoughts and prayers are with you. =)

Amber - posted on 03/26/2011

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I know this is an old post....But how far long did she carry the baby? What did it weigh? Is the baby doing good?

Lindsay - posted on 10/30/2009

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My daughter was born at 27 weeks and I didn't even have time for steroids. She weighed almost 3 lbs (giant for that gestation!). She spent 66 days in the NICU, but still came home a little more than 2 weeks before her due date. She is now a healthy and energetic 21mos old. Her only issue is she is prone to pneumonia and bronchiolitis when she gets sick, but that is due to her incredibly premature lungs at birth (remember I didn't get any steroid shots).



If you want to do something for her, you could make her a NICU care package (our parent group makes them for current NICU parents). Include things like bottled water, lotion, purel, a preemie outfit, gum, snacks, a journal or calendar to write milestones down, and other things.



Or if she scrapbooks, there is a website that has preemie scrapbooking stuff really reasonable. http://mykidinspirations.com



Good luck to her and her baby!

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Alexis - posted on 11/05/2009

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Hi Jessica, My son Quinn was born last year just before 32 weeks because I had pre-eclampsia. He's healthy and perfect now! Good luck to your friend.

Iysha - posted on 11/01/2009

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My baby was almost born at 33 weeks. I was given a steroid injection to help with fetal lung development. The primary concern for babies born prematurely is Lung Development. I was able to go 13 more days after my first encounter with preterm labor and had my baby at 35 weeks.



many babies are born before 32 weeks and do well. I have a cousin who was born at 6 months gestation. He was 1 pound, had no fat on him and he is now an active 9 year old boy. Babies born at 32 weeks have more than a good chance at being born with only minor problems (feeding problems, low birth weight)...your friend being at the hospital right now works in her favor. If she was out of the hospital and had no idea her baby might come early, there would be more of a chance that her baby would be born with complications. The fact that she is getting steroid injections is great. I understan the worrying part... I was stuck in the hospital on meds to keep my labor from progressing for 9 days before I was sent home on bed rest. The doctors thought i had preclampsia, and I didn't everyone was stumped about what the hell was wrong with me. On the 8th day i was in the Hospital a specialist evaluated me and the ultrasounds and it turned out I had an aging placenta...something very uncommon for someone with my demographics. it happens most often in women who are smokers, drug users or older (i'm 21).



Reassure her that her and her baby will be fine. There are many cases of preclampsia and doctors face cases like hers often. She is in the right place and getting the right care. Her baby will be beautiful and it will all be over...the worst part is not knowing what will happen, but the doctors are doing everything they can to make sure her baby and her will be safe and healthy. It's hard, but she has to understand that 32 weeks is not the worst time to have a baby...Things could be a whole lot worse. I kept telling myself that while i was in the hospital.

Shana - posted on 11/01/2009

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i had my baby at 37 weeks i had pre-eclampsia and didn't no until i went to hospital the next day she was born. i had an emergancy c section and they took her straight to baby icu where my boyfriend was to start bonding with her but only allowed to talk not touch her. i was in icu aswell for 3 days then taken to ward the next day after that jazmine joined me in the ward 2 more days and i was home.jazmine is fully healthy and happy she is a little slow not crwling yet but every baby takes there time and im not worried about her. i no there is a big difference of 5 weeks but i still say she will be fine and so will her bub doctors are so good now days.

Jeananne - posted on 11/01/2009

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hi my husband was 6 weeks early he was in the neonatal for a the first month of his life. hes 26 now has no problem we have 2 kids that r fine. and tell her im praying for them.

Danette - posted on 11/01/2009

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Quoting Jessica:

Premature baby Please Help

I have a really good friend that is in hospital with pre-eclampsia. She is 32 weeks at the moment and her BP has climed and her protien trippled in the last week.

I dont know what i can do for her, she is very down and upset and worried as you would be. The doctors are hoping she can make it till sunday for her next steroid dose.

Is there anyone out there with some good and hopeful stories about premmy babies at 32 weeks that i could then tell my friend to give her some hope?!



ya, angel was born at 30 wks, she had a heart monitor and oxegen 4 bout 6 mths, and some asthma, shes 9 yrs old and u would never b able to tell!! chin up and enjoy every moment

Nicky - posted on 11/01/2009

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my daughter was born at 30 weeks and she is a beautiful healthy 2 1/2 yr old. just be there for your friend when she has her baby she will be really sad she may not want to talk about it but when she is ready let her just listen .... the hardest thing is gonna be when she is discharged from the hospital and she has to leave her baby there .... offer to go with her to see the baby and drive her to the hospital ...tell her to take lots of pics of her little one because there will be lots of changes it may seem as if it will never end but it does get better... in the nicu it seems like every peice of good news comes with 3 peices of bad news but it hands you a strong miricle baby who she wont take for granted .... tell her also to bring updates of her little on to the nicu because the nurses love to see the babies doing well after they leave. they become attached to your little one to... keep her head up and she may seem to be a bit out of it most moms blame themselves for having a baby prematurely but she needs to be remined some angels aren't patient it's not her fault.... hope that helps best wishes and good luck to your friend.

Nicole - posted on 11/01/2009

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My younger sister, now 21 years old was born at 32 weeks and, although she was in an incubator in intensive care for a few days, you would never know now that she was born early. Also, if your friend does have a preemie I would recommend picking up some preemie clothes to help her out. Babies'r'us has a preemie section and if those are still too big I have heard of people using doll clothes.

User - posted on 11/01/2009

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Our little guy was born at 27 weeks and is now a very healthy and very active three year old. He was in hosp for three months and the hardest part for me was being so far away from family and friends (300 km) so if you can try and help her if this is an issue.



Tell your friend to ask for a tour of the NICU and ask as many questions as she can (I wrote all my questions down so i didnt forget any).



Tell her to think positive and take one day at a time. Will be thinking of you all.

Patricia - posted on 11/01/2009

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My son was born at 26 weeks. It was rough for 3 monthes and he had lots of problems but he is 29 years old now. He has two beautiful children and a wonderful wife. He served a mission and is almost finished college as a grafic design major. He's was an eagle scout as well. 32 weeks is not too bad. Just rest and know she is doing what is best for her and the baby.The hospital is the best place for her.

Bianca - posted on 11/01/2009

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my son was a month premature I was six months preg when I lost my plug and started to diolate three centameters I went into a bunch of false labors for two months and was scared out of my mind but thank god when he did come out he was fine just had a bit of jaundice so he had to stay in the hospital for a week but he turned out to be a very bright healthy and happy baby boy.

Tricia - posted on 11/01/2009

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I had a preemie 28 weeks 2lb 13 oz he is now almost 16 he is perfectly fine he had to spend 2 months in hospital but everything turned out fine

Savanna - posted on 11/01/2009

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My friend had her baby 3 months early---she is 3 now and extremely healthy and smarter than ever :o) Just keep mom occupied. Let her know that these days our medical technology works miracles.

User - posted on 11/01/2009

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My daughter was 31 weeks she is now 11years old and in to makeup boys anything you would expect she . Your friend will be fine i went through the same as her i bet she is woundering why her i did tell her she will be fine the doctors will be keeping a good check on her send her my love let us know the out come x x

Tiffany - posted on 10/31/2009

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i gave birth at 32 wks, my son was 4pds and 1 once- he was born perfect- he stood in the hospital for 12 days which was until he could suck the bottle to feed- and home he went, hes now almost 5 and still perfect- when a baby wants to come out it wants to come-he/shes making a statement lol, with the lords blessing they should be ok, everything happens for a reason, its very scarey but have faith

Jennifer - posted on 10/31/2009

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Sure I wasn't precla. but had my son at 34 weeks and he is now almost 3 months old and is doing great. He has doubled his weight and is thriving. My friend just had her at 30 weeks due to the same preclam. and so far he is doing great.

Lori - posted on 10/30/2009

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My eldest son was born at 34 weeks. He weighed 4 lbs and 5 oz. We stayed in the hospital for 10 days. He stopped breathing 5 times under 100% oxygen the first 24 hours of his life. He came home on an apnea monitor which never once went off. He is a health 11 and half year old. The only trouble he has now is that due to the meds they gave me to slow my labor caused him to have no short term memory. But with specail exercises he is doing better every year in school. Now for my 15 week old baby. He was born at 36 weeks and had no trouble until he was 11 days old. We had several trips to the doc for weigh checks and to the hopsital for billie rubbin checks, but one day I noticed he was a little fussy and didn't want to eat. He wimppered like he was in pain everytime you moved him. I took him to the ER at 3 a.m. and then was sent to his ped. later that morning. She admitted him into the ER and stayed over night. The next day he was medaflighted to a bigger hospital. We were told he wasn't going to make it thru the night and had 80% brain damage. Apparently he had blood on his brain which caused his brain to swell and then give him seizures and caused him to stop breathing. He is doing better each day. So every case is different. Just tell her to trust her feelings when it comes to her baby. A mother may be new but she will always know when something isn't right.

Angela - posted on 10/30/2009

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I had severe pre-eclampsia 12 years ago with my daughter Kaleigh. She was delivered just shy of 31 weeks after only 2 steroid shots. She weighed in at 4lbs 0oz. But her lungs were perfect. She did have a couple of preemie brain bleeds. But it all worked out and she's GREAT! She was smaller until she hit 2nd grade and she finally caught up. She's in the 7th grade now, and this little miracle of mine has been nominated to attend DUKE university this summer and will also be attending Truman State University this year part time. She's amazing!! Yes...we went through some scarey times getting her here. And they told us all the worst possibilities while she was laying in the NICU, but the fact is....the Dr.'s aren't always really sure just what that baby can and can't do. Kaleigh was and still is a fighter. This child who they said would probably never walk, now takes Gymnastics. They said she'd probably never talk and have proper cognitive thought...and she's ready for college at age 12, and hardly ever STOPS talking!!! All kids develop at different rates, so don't compare your baby to anyone but themselves. If they start behind....then of course they'll be a little behind developmentally. But they do catch up!! :) Just hang in there.

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My premature baby was born at only 25 weeks 6 days so your friend is already way ahead. He weighted 1 lb 13 oz at birth. He spent 114 days in hospital. He had some issues while in hospital. I got both of my steroid shots but the docs don't think the last one had enough time to take effect before my son was born (I had been hospitalized 4 days before I went into labour, they couldn't stop it). I was scared to death.



My son is now 21 months and you would never know he had such a rough start. He has caught up to his age group (preemies are often behind their age group until about 2 or 3 years) and is doing everything he should be and more. Preemies are amazing little people and will surprise everyone around them.

Cheryl - posted on 10/30/2009

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hi i was born at 34 weeks my younger brother were born at 30 weeks and mum said t pass on that as long as she got a good neo natal unit present she will hav a great chance and not to be scared of a small baby they wont break !!!!

Karen - posted on 10/30/2009

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With my youngest my waters started leaking at 30 weeks and i went into labour. The hospital managed to stop the labour. I had one steroid injection before going into labour again at 32 weeks. My daughter was born weighing 4lb 5oz, this was a very good weight and if i had gone to term she would have been approx 12lb.... she was born with an infection passed on from me but apart from that she was well and only spent 2 weeks in hospital before being released. She was small for her age until she was about 3 but other than that she had no medical issues and is now 15. Im sure your friend is worried and anxcious, who wouldnt be, but at 32 weeks she should be fine and i will keep my fingers crossed for her.

Dana - posted on 10/30/2009

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My son was born at 33 wks, a little bit later than your friend but, he did perfectly fine. He was jaundiced and couldn't get the idea of suck on the nipple and then swollow down but, I guess that happens alot. Things will go smoothly I'm sure,especially if the baby is getting the steroids for his/her lungs. Tell her that it happens alot and to not be upset. That she's going to need her strength and energy on other matters soon. Try to help her as much as you can because if the baby is born early he will have to stay in the hospital and sometimes even money for food, parking or gas is helpful. You wouldn't believe how much that adds up. And just some one to sit with is the best too! You sound like a great friend.

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First of all just be there to listen....visit her help her keep her mind off of it. Remind her to talk to the nurses...that's what they are there for....they are her support team! I loved mine they made me laugh, comforted me when I cryed and gave me the things I needed. I know how she is feeling! I was hospitalized for the same thing but was at 34 weeks. Babys can survive at 32 weeks and live a long happy healthy life. My some was born at 34 weeks because they did all they could my preclampsia was getting worse. The NICU for the babys is amazing.....the nurses give the babies so much love that when the baby does leave you have new people to call your family. If the baby is delivered ......just remind her it's for a good reason...to keep the baby and her safe!!!! It's not safe for the baby and mom to be having these complictions. My son was born 6 weeks early and is now 5 month and 16 lbs. He was 4 lbs 6 ozs at birth!! They are amazing and will fight to come home!!

Julie - posted on 10/30/2009

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I have a nephew that was born 28 weeks, just over a pound--today he is a teenager and the most perfect young man--there is not nor has there been a thing wrong with him. I am sure that she is in a good, big hospital that is equipped to take care of this situation. I will keep your friend and her baby in my prayers

Cassie - posted on 10/30/2009

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My youngest was born premature...He was only on the breathing things for the first night BECAUSE I had the steroid shots. I was 32 weeks when he was born as well. He spent 2 1/2 weeks in the NICU which was mainly because he needed to learn to eat. Nothing wrong with him when he came home. He actually is my healthy child. He is now 6 years old and is an AVID soccer player. As long as she gets those steroids I think the baby should be good.

The best advice for how to help her is just listen...it is very scary what she is going through and sometimes we just want to know someone is there and cares...the other thing would be to try to do stuff with her...go visit and take in a deck of cards or board game...in the Hospital I hated it...I was lonely and scared and all I could do was think about the bad things that could happen. I loved the distraction and visitors who came.

I hope this helps and good luck. I hope everything works out good for your friend and her new little one.

Beth - posted on 10/30/2009

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Just spend time with her when you can. Do anything you can to support her or her family? I had same issue and ended up delivering at 32weeks. My daughter was small at birth 3pound 9 ounce and 40 cms long but now she is 9 years old. You would not know that she was a premmie any more. Womens and Childrens Hospital in Adelaide was fantastic and great support network for mums with premmies

Theresa - posted on 10/30/2009

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I don't think that you need to offer your friend stories of success. You need to offer your friend yourself. You just being there. You letting her vent, cry, wonder, worry is something you can do. Technology is so different today, but when my twins were born 6 weeks early there was a set of twins born at 1lbs each. They were almost 5 lbs by the time we left the hospital. Its important to remember that every baby is different, success stories go hand in hand with the bad. Be her support.

Julie - posted on 10/30/2009

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Hi! I had a premie baby girl at 27 weeks! I only had time for one steroid injection. She is now 9 and a half and is doing great guns! You wouldn't even know she was premie...just a little smaller than her friends!



The doctors couldn't tell me what went wrong or if it would happen in other pregnancies. Up until that last day I had had a perfect pregnancy with not even so much as a touch of morning sickness!



32 weeks will be fine....esp if she has had her steroid injections! Just be there for her and support her and keep her positive! I had a very special friend with me at the time and she was my rock! Unfortunately we are no longer friends :( But I have the memories of her great support and friendship at the time which really pulled me through!



Let her know it is ok to cry but do not let her blame herself! These things happen for no apparent reason sometimes. Just get that baby out healthy!!



Good Luck!!

Kim - posted on 10/30/2009

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My son was born at 31wks and my daughter at 30wks. They were 4lb 4oz and 4 lb 1/2 oz respectively. Both had to have IVs in their heads for antibiotics for infection from my water breaking early. Their lungs were fully developed, thank God. They both had to stay in hospital incubators about 2 weeks and were allowed to go home at 5 lbs. They are now 26 and 22, very smart with college degrees and absolutely no health issues from their early births. Keep praying and encourage her. You are a good friend. With the conditions that your friend has, it is probably better for all to deliver early if the doctor decides it's best, which is what happened with me. God bless. She is in my prayers. You can look at my profile if you like and see what they look like now. It's hard to believe they were those pathetic-looking little 4lb. babies.

Michelle - posted on 10/30/2009

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I had my son at 32 weeks.he came into this world screaming (the best sound I ever heard) and is still screaming till this day lol He weighed 1806gramms born and is now a healthy 3 yr old who loves to scream at his older brother.tell your freind it is normal to feel down and it does pass once you see that beautiful bundle.I felt like the worst person on earth and cried and cried and convinced myself I was a terrible mum.But that all goes away.Take everyday as it comes and just be her freind and hold her hand.let her cry and scream and just be there for her.

Rebecca - posted on 10/30/2009

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Hello Jessica

My daughter Eve was born at 34 weeks gestation in January, shes 9 months old now and has no health problems whatso ever she is just a bit smaller compared to other 9 month olds, she only weighed 1700grams which was underweight for a 34 weeker she spent a total of 21 days in NICU. she was born with respiritory distress, and had a little jaundice, she had issues with maintaining her temprature too, she was also born by emergency C-SECT while we were away on holidays.. i had sudden onset of Pre-Eclampsia, Hypertension and i had a Placental Abruption so i was bleeding internally, i was very unwell , i was 21 a single mum and 3 hours away from all of my support and family, i had to rely on NICU staff for support and it was hard

Every Prem is different... the doctors can really scare a mum who is faced with the possiblilty of having a Prem baby... the most important thing to tell your friend is that she is not to blame, alot of mums feel guilty like it is their fault that their child was born prematurely... which its not, she needs lots of support, and to be reminded of all the beautiful and happy times yet to come, remind her of how much of a miricle that little bub is going to be
Some Prems are lucky enough to be born with little more complications than respiritory distress and need to learn how to suck, jaundice and some just need to gain weight and grow a little, others have temprature issues and need a hot cot
and in some cases the complications are more serious and babies need more special care for longer after birth and have learning disabilities later in their childhood and sometimes for life, and this is a scary time for parents, they can feel so helpless

but usually by 30-32 weeks gestation the likelihood of serious complications are less likely to be the case and can be a series of smaller ones but every prem is different

Most prems catch up to term bubs by the age of 2 years

Just try to cheer her up and be positive for her, if you are down and seem worried it will keep her feeling down

Goodluck Hun, i wish your friend all the luck and hope that she delivers a healthy bubby. i'll make sure to keep you guys in my prayers

xoxox
Bec

Kelsey - posted on 10/29/2009

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i saw this program on tv that had a baby born at 20 weeks. it was the tiniest baby i have ever seen. they were able to save it and it is a healthy baby with no problems what so ever.

Toni - posted on 10/29/2009

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she probably has toxemia. The baby should be fine. The last month is mainly fat weight gain anyway. If it is toxemia it is good the docs are watching so closely. My prayers are with her and her family.

Alexis - posted on 10/29/2009

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Tell her to pray. I did. Everyday and night. Seriously pray and believe things will be ok and they will be. My daughter was born at 24 weeks. She was 1 1/2 pounds and 11 1/2 inches. She was in the hospital for a long time. Five long months. But she is now three years old. She's absolutely perfect. She's amazing, really smart and the most wonderfully sweet natured child I have ever met. Things will be hard at first. But if she's lasted this long, all will be ok. I was never a religious person. But I believe in God and all he can and will do for us if we just trust and believe. How can a mother not believe and share her story when God gave her a miracle.

I'm actually crying as I write this because I was so petrified of losing my baby. I lookat her now and know that I'mtruly blessed. Tell your friend to pray. Pray with her. I will say a pray for her too. Every prayer helps. Good luck to your friend. The best thing for you to do is be there for her. I didn't have too many friends there for me while I went through all of that. It was really hard. Stick by her, she'll need you for support.

Nancy - posted on 10/29/2009

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I had a preemie at 33 weeks last October...was in a car accident and went into labor and they could not stop it. It went so fast that I didn't even get the steriod shots to help speed up the lung development. Baby was in NICU for two weeks b/c he didn't know how to eat and needed oxygen for a while, but he just had his first birthday. At nine months he was behind on motor skills, but at 1 year he was all caught up. He is 25th% for height and weight (was 5 lbs when born), and my oldest son (full term) is the same...25th%. More than likely, the baby will be just fine if born early.

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My BFF had a preemie on Sept. 17 of this year and was not due til Nov. 25th and baby is HOME, already! She had him at 30 weeks and 1 day, weighing 3#1 (which is a decent size baby for most NICU's believe it or not!) and a little over 15 inches. He spent 34 days in the NICU and left the hospital weighing 4#13! He is doing MIRACULOUSLY and is already eating 2-2½ ounces at a feeding! God Blessed that little boy for me and my best friend.



*** Also, I have another friend who actually had twins at 25 weeks and 5 days, and then another singleton at 31 weeks and 5 days. Unfortunately one twin passed because of a rare preemie complication called NEC, but both other boys are doing great! Actually her newest one who is about 3 weeks older than my son (mind you he was not quite 32 weeks in untero) is BIGGER than my son, and my son will be 6 months on the 5th and weighs 17 pounds! ** I also wanted to tell you that I used to work OB/Gyn and have a lot of other stories I could go on with but know that NICU's are the BEST place for a preemie. They are some of the most dedicated warm hearted strong nurses and doctors who take care of those babies and they can do SO MUCH now.



* I will also tell you the most important story to you for me personally. My cousin was born weighing 1#13 in May of 1993. She is now one of the brightest, happy, responsible!!! and dedicated 16 year olds I know and would bend over backwards for anyone if she could. Her mom has been sick for a long time and has grown up quickly and become a wonderful young woman with NO health problems! AND THAT WAS 16 YEARS AGO!!! PRAY! PRAY! & PRAY some more. That is all I did from when I got that call recently about my best friend. And he is home! Have faith! I hope my 3 stories put a smile on your face. Everything happens for a reason and sometimes they do not know why. Babies decide a whole world of things on their own, and he or she isn't happy and unfortunately needs to come out early. Preeclampsia is not something you want to mess around with. I had it with both of my children. Good Luck to your friend, and you. I will keep her in my prayers. Please let me know if there is anything I can do. *Chin up!

Shawna - posted on 10/29/2009

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my first child i was in the same situation the baby will be fine i promise thought they will keep him in the nicu for a while untill they are positive everything is fine i gave birth to dalton at 32 weeks and he was fine. they kept him for 2 weeks in the nicu to make sure that nothing popped up but he is a normal 5 yo boy now!!

Tarah - posted on 10/29/2009

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A friend of mine had her baby at 34 weeks he was fine he only had to stay in hospital for a week he didnt need oxygen or anything they just kept him in there until he put on some weight.

Katie - posted on 10/29/2009

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I went into labor at 32wk3dys with my oldest. They were able to hold her off till 33wk exactly. She got both doses and 2extra days. Kailey was born weighing 4lbs 4oz and was 16in long. She had difficulty breathing and was put on a respirator for 2days and then oxygen for a day. She eat through a breathing tube for 2wks and was up to 4lbs 12oz in 3wks and coming home with no special care except special high calorie formula and a strict feeding schedule. Have hope! Your friend will face some tough times but could have a healthy, thriving child. My daughter is now 5. She is happy, healthy, and extemely smart. She is a little small still but makes up for size with brains. I will pray for your friend.

Christy - posted on 10/29/2009

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My b/g twins were born at 31 weeks 4 days. Nathan was 4 lbs 8 oz and Makenna was 3 lbs 15.8oz. Nathan was in the NICU for 3.5 weeks and Makenna for 5 weeks. They caught up size wise by 6 months and were on track developmentally for everything based on their adjusted age until about 1. After that they were on target for actual age. You would NEVER guess they were preemies. They turned 2 last month. N is in the 97% for weight and 90% for height. M is 90th for height and 75th for weight. I read a book on multiples pregnancy (and talked to other twins' moms) that recommended eat as much protein as you can stand - cheese, nuts, meat, eggs, protein shakes/drinks. I credit my babies' healthy size and good outcome to that one tip. I wish your friend and her baby a lot of luck.

Angela - posted on 10/29/2009

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My son was born at 30 weeks in 1988. Thanks to former First Lady Jaqueline Kennedy, research into and with Premies has advanced dramatically. When my son was born there were so many "horrible possibilities" that are not an issue now days. Your friends concerns and questions should revolve around her baby's lungs. A premie born with hard lungs is unable to breath properly. They have drugs now that can be given prior to a possible early birth that will soften the lungs, alowing a newborn to breath almost normally. They will keep her infant in PN Unit until its Due Date, This is hard on Mom but Good for Baby.



I know this was very abriviated and short, but if your friend needs more info just refer her to me. My Son is now 21, and despite all of the many warnings and posibilites of Blindness, Deaf, Dumb, Retarded...........and on and on, and despite a portion of his brain being damaged by lack of O2, The only problems we had were Speach Impediment (overcome) and educational learning difficulties (overcome), He is an amazing young man who writes short novels, works towards a photography degree, works a 40hr week job at a distribution center - managing delivery and schedules and loads, has a beautiful fiance, his own townhouse............ and on and on. Lots of work for him and me to get here, but worth it.



Have her ask questions about LUNGS..............

Diane - posted on 10/29/2009

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I have had two children that were preemies, due to pre-eclampsia, son at 34 weeks 4 lbs 7 oz (he is 10 now) and daughter at 32 weeks 4lbs 12 oz, (she is 6 now). Both children are doing great! My son did have borderline asthma until he was abt 6, and my daughter has been very healthy with no issues. It was very emotional, but she needs to try and stay calm and relaxed.

LaCresha - posted on 10/29/2009

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I have a 10 year old daughter who was born at 28 weeks, due to the fact that I had pre-eclampsia and toxemia, she weighed in at 1 lb 14 oz at birth. She is now 10 years old and weighs maybe 62 lbs! She is a fifth grader and exceling in school. Tell her God has everything under control!

April - posted on 10/29/2009

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Hi! I unexpectedly had to be induced at 29 weeks due to placenta issues and my son was born healthy at 2.4 pounds. He ended up being in the NICU for 2.5 months but did awesome the entire time he was there. He is now home and very healthy! It is very scary.....i know in my situation I always heard the matter of fact answers from doctors and never anything too positive. It is very important to get the steroid shots for the baby's lungs; I know they said those helped my guy.
Just let her know to stay positive and that her and her baby will be looked after! Sounds like she has a great friend that will be able to be by her side for this experience!

Cindy - posted on 10/29/2009

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I too had pre-eclampsia with both of my pregancies and now how scary it can be first hand, luckily i was 36 weeks when i delivered however at 32 weeks I was told that the baby would maybe need a little help with oxygen but otherwise do great and continue to develop after birth the same as if it were still in mommys tummy..i was just told with preemies that you factor their developmental age with their full term due date if that makes sense. Best of luck to your friend it will get better for her after delivery which is the only cure for the disease.

Dee - posted on 10/29/2009

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One of my friends had her lil boy at 31 weeks because of pre-eclampsia he is now 10 weeks old and is doing fantastic he is out of hospital and putting on weight so fast and he is a happy healthy little baby....

Ashley - posted on 10/29/2009

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my friend had her baby girl two months early.. To this day is is doing well as well ad the baby is an amazing fighter. They are happy and healthy. Good Luck and just stay strong for her and her baby.

Natasha - posted on 10/29/2009

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I didn't have a premature baby but i did go into preterm labour when i was 29 weeks (thankfully nothing eventuated!) But i know how she is feeling. it is a very scary thing to think your baby is going to be too early and there are lots of health risks. But just tell her that babies have survived being born at 24 weeks so her baby has a very high chance! doctors are great now days and they know what to do! All the best!

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