Preschool?

Kim - posted on 08/13/2009 ( 22 moms have responded )

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How many people will be putting there child in preschool? My son is 3 and I'm concerned that if he doesn't go to preschool he'll have less social and knowledge for kindergarten. So he will be attending 2 days a week starting this fall. I just wanted to hear other moms opinions.

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Marne - posted on 08/13/2009

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If this is your 1st child let me tell you I was SHOCKED at how hard they push kids academically starting right at kindergarten now! If I hadn't have put my oldest in pre school there would have been absolutely no way he could have kept up in kindergarten. Going into our kindergarten the kids were expected to know their colors and shapes and alphabet. By the end of kindergarten they were expected to be reading simple stories and how to count to 100! 3 year old pre school is a really good idea to get the social thing and the idea of being away from mom down and 4 year old pre school is really kind of a necessity any more. It is true every kid is different and these might be things you are already teaching at home but it is constantly amazing me what they want out of kids these days. Some of the math my 1ST GRADER was bringing home last year was, admittedly very simple, thinly veiled algebra! Good luck!

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I've taught 4 year old preschool for 12 years so I may be a little bias! 3 year old preschool is good but as far as kindergarten readiness I feel 4 year old ( the year just before going to K) is pretty important. 3 year old is mostly social and basic introduction to concepts. Most of the social stuff at 3 they can get in play groups etc. It (3) should be fun for them and not stressful if they don't "get" what's going on. Enjoy!

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Kimberly - posted on 08/16/2012

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Actually my son is also turning 3 in a few more weeks and I'm looking into preschool because I too have similar worries, but I can't find anything were I live. . Any suggestions? I'm located in Tampa FL 33604

Katie - posted on 08/14/2012

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I have three boys and all three have/are in pre school! My oldest is in first grade and I believe he is doing as well as he is because of the pre school!

My twins, are in their second year of pre school and I couldn't be any happier!

I am a stay at home mom and I put my children in pre shcool because I needed to know how they would react in a school setting and how they would do listening to another adult. My oldest was a shy child, so I thought by putting him in a school setting would help him out. Also, getting him to meet kids his own age. I never did any play dates or anything like that so all they saw was their brothers and their cousins (every once in a while)

Last year was a wake up call for me with the twins...I found out that they have to be doing something in the school at all times or they would get into trouble or cause trouble. Their attitude turned around real quick thanks to their teachers!

I am definetly pro pre school...but every situation and family is different!

KELLEY - posted on 08/07/2012

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I am in the same position with my daughter..she is 3 and I don,t know if I should send her or not..she would go 2 years 4 days a week and I really want to do what is best for her but want to keep her with me as long as I can..maybe Im selfish,,,I just dont know either but best of luck to you and whatever decision you make but just remember they are only this age for a little while and enjoy them if you can be at home....I think I just made my decision...

Kim - posted on 07/31/2012

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I am a stay home mum I sent both my kids at age 3 its great for socialising and structure that they dont get at playgroups ect. I agree that 4 is better for getting ready for school if thats all you want it for. I personally think it would be a big shock to any kid going straight from home all day to "Big school"for 5 days, thats why with my son we bumped his days at preschool to 3 for the last term before he went to school it worked great for him and I plan to do the same with my daughter she just turned 4yr and has been doing one day a week for the last year hoping to bump her to two days for next yr and then again 3 for the last term (money permitting). Not only is it great for them it gives you a break to get things done without them lets face it at this age they want to help (which isnt always that helpful) and constantly ask questions its nice to have a break and have someone else answer the questions for a while good luck whatever you decide :0)

Jean - posted on 08/14/2009

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My son went to preschool for 2 years actually, he is starting kindergarten this year. He has a friend who is 4 days older than him who also went for 2 years. For my son, the social aspect was fantastic. He was not a big talker and he learned so much from that first year of preschool. He is really good with his numbers and letter, too. His friend is a very social boy and even though he did the 2 years as well, isn't as good with his letters or numbers. Basically, it could go either way. I think preschool is a great tool to help them prepare, but in all reality, that's what kindergarten is for. There are plenty of kids in my area who started kindergarten without first going to preschool and they all catch up in time.

Kim - posted on 08/14/2009

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Well we just got home from looking at two different preschools. The first was in a pretty building, but didn't seem to be organized or structured. The second school is a christian based program and actually reminded me of the pre-school I attended as a child. The second school was very organized and had more of a routine....they have circle time, calendar time, assign helpers. My son loved both places, but I choose the second school. They seem like they will prepare him more for 4 yr old preschool and are more interested in teaching him the knowledge he needs to know for kindergarten. For example, they do an evaluation on skills and such. He starts on the 8th of September and has orientation the week before. I really think he'll enjoy himself.

Barbara - posted on 08/14/2009

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My 6yr old started school for the first time last year & had a hard time getting adjusted to being away from me when he first started becaue being unemployed he stayed with me until then. This year he started kindergarten at public school & this first week has been like starting over again but he's a lil better than he was last year with the crying. I'll just be soo glad when he gets adjusted, this was the first week of school so maybe next week will be better. He enjoys being around other children it's getting adjusted to being away from home again. People have told me i should've started him earlier so he wouldn't be this way but i think each child is different.

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Preschool is good to help children get ready for school. If they don't go, they can still be helped at home with the academic stuff. Keeping them at home or sending the to preschool both have advantages and dissadvantages. Do what you think is right for your child.

Kim - posted on 08/14/2009

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My oldest son is now going into the 3rd grade. I worked full-time while he was younger so he was in a daycare with a preshool program. He had no difficulties transitioning to kindergarten. My 3 yr old has been lucky because I have not needed to work full-time. so he has not attended daycare. I know he would love to play with kids his own age and I think it will allow me some quality one on one time with my 9month old daughter. I also want him to just be exposed to more of a routine. Thanks for all your opinions.

Kelly - posted on 08/13/2009

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I worked full-time when my oldest two were little; they stayed with my mother before my first one started kindergarten, then attended full-time day care until my second one started school. At that time I started gradually cutting back my work schedule, and by the time #3 was here I worked in part-time in childcare and kept her with me, and with #4 I have mostly stayed home. I was somewhat worried that #3 would have a problem adjusting to school, taking turns, waiting patiently to follow a strict schedule, etc. She did just fine! She is now going into second grade, and she had a "smiley face" every single day of kindergarten and first grade. I know #4 would enjoy getting out with kids her own age, so I have considered putting her in preschool (she is 3), but I really don't think they NEED it, as long as you work with them at home. I do agree that they are expected to know a lot when they start school, but it's nothing you can't teach them. Kids learn so fast because they love to learn at this age! Whether your child stays in the preschool, or you change your mind, I think he will be just fine when he goes to school.

Arwen - posted on 08/13/2009

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I think I will. Mine is only 19 months, but I think she'd love being with other kids. I don't think I'd leave her all day, though. Just for lessons and a little playtime. She can nap at home.

Christina - posted on 08/13/2009

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our son will be starting at 2 years, 7 months, hopefully. preschool admissions are pretty crazy here, so we will start the application and interview process in a month or two (a year in advance). he'll most likely start in a 2 day a week program. we want him to get use to interacting with other kids his own age and want him to be in a play based program.

Melissa - posted on 08/13/2009

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Quoting Rachael:

I've taught 4 year old preschool for 12 years so I may be a little bias! 3 year old preschool is good but as far as kindergarten readiness I feel 4 year old ( the year just before going to K) is pretty important. 3 year old is mostly social and basic introduction to concepts. Most of the social stuff at 3 they can get in play groups etc. It (3) should be fun for them and not stressful if they don't "get" what's going on. Enjoy!



I agree!  I too am a Pre-K teacher, and "biased".....but if you want to just put them in for kindergarten readiness, I would do it more at the age of 4 than 3.  Everything Rachael said is true...the 3 yr old class is more a social learning atmosphere.  BUT  either way, I believe children who attend preschool are more ready for kindergarten......had many Kindergarten teachers tell me so!

Jessica - posted on 08/13/2009

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Also be sure that it is a quality program. If it is accreditted you can ssured that they have worked hard to make the program a great one. Take some time and do a little checking and visit the center a few times. If there is a lot of TV watching you should look twice at that program.

Jessica - posted on 08/13/2009

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I too have taught preschool. I believe that unless you have concerns about your child's developmental milestones, a child does not NEED preschool at 3. If you have any concerns on your child's cognitive (ability to learn new things), social, or language development you should definately get him in more than 2 days a week. If you fell he is a pretty well rounded child, 2 days a week should be lots of fun for him and you as well.

Most children get that extra boost to help them excell once in kidergarten.

Lisa - posted on 08/13/2009

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I love our preschool program. My children go toa small Catholic school of a 125 kids and the interation they have with other children their age is pricless. My 4 yr. old who starts his 2nd year next week learn to recite the Pledge.



Plus for me preschool gives me a break in the day. My hubby travels for his job so it is peacefull even if for only 2 1/2 hrs :)

Lorie - posted on 08/13/2009

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It all depends on how he does with new people, sudden change etc... I think if a child does not get a lot of child interaction with other children then its a great idea. I put my now 4 year old in preschool when he was 2 and it didn't work out for him AT ALL.

Just keep in mind every child is different . Adjusts different and at different rates :)

Good luck :)

Tanya - posted on 08/13/2009

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I think it is a great idea. Although our daughter (an only child) is 16 years old now, I enrolled her in a daycare similar to preschool (we were in Germany at the time - military) and it really was great for her. Being an only child, she learned to share and to socialize with other children - instead of just Mom and Dad. She is a natural born leader and has alway liked to run the show, preschool curbed the "bossiness" and fostered helpfulness. I was a stay a home mom, but putting her in an environment with other kids without me being there was really a great thing. When she started school, she was ahead of the game; she still is in the 11th grade. I have never regretted that decision. My big word of advice would be check out the daycare before enrolling your child.

Jennifer - posted on 08/13/2009

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My daughter is four almost 5 and started preschool this week she loves it ans so will he! As long as you can afford it its fun and they enjoy it !

Susan - posted on 08/13/2009

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I personally favor preschool. I think kids do just fine without though too. But I like it as sort of a preparation for elementary school. My son attended 1 year as we were in a small town when it would have been his first year and there weren't any openings. My daughter attended 2 years and my other daughter will also attend 2 years beginning next fall.

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