principle that denies the bullying problem and then bullies my son

David - posted on 05/07/2014 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Last year my son was being bullied on the school grounds as well as his bus and when my Husband and I went in to speak to the teacher and principle and this issue my son was told that he is A big boy and doesn't need "Mommy or Daddy" to fight your battles. She also stated that because my son had pushed this bullying kid off of him he was the reason for the bullying. My point is that going to the school to try to get help doesn't help when the Principle doesn't want to acknowledge this is happening on there watch. Also I have recently called the Superintendent's office to ask for more help they will not respond to me but call that Principle and she took my son to her office and then verbally disciplined him and treated him as though he was A criminal for being Bullied as well as making him apologize to the Bully. Does this make sense to you??

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David - posted on 05/07/2014

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I do agree that we have to act respectfully and mature no doubt about that, so my fiancé and I just met with the school superintendent and we all have agreed to work together to solve this problem. He seemed concerned and honest so I hope this goes well as planned.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/07/2014

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And yes, act professional, and deal with this in a very mature manner.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/07/2014

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I personally would tell them that they are to contact you and be present any time they want to talk with your son. That you no longer allow him to be alone with any principal, vice principal, or teacher without you the parent present.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/07/2014

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Well, first of all, you need to remain calm whilst handling this situation, or you'll get nowhere. The more aggressive and bent out of shape that you are, the less help you'll get.

I'm not saying it's right, but that's what usually happens, generally because the school district employees are tired of handling parents who cannot approach the situation as adults.

If you have followed the steps outlined, then by all means, be a squeaky wheel. But do not be aggressive, do not raise your voice, do not act belligerent. By doing so, you do yourself and your child a disservice.

David - posted on 05/07/2014

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I agree there is two sides to every story yet when we have tried to get A meeting between the school teacher and Principle we are brushed off and told our son is A liar and very rude and degrading towards myself and my son.. even making the statement to our son in front of my Fiancé "Are you going to go crying to mommy and daddy when you get in high school?" And the superintendent's was called on Monday to set up A meeting and we were told they would be in touch with my Fianc'e with in 48 hour's. When our son came home yesterday he had informed us that the principle had called him to her office to reprimand him verbally and made him apologize to the bully!!1 That's NOT the right way to handle this problem!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/07/2014

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Well, not really. However, it's been my experience that most parents don't understand the proper system for voicing concerns, and then feel that they are being brushed aside when trying to finally address a concern.

You need to follow these steps:
1) fully document all behaviour in question, both your son's and that of the other party. This will require that you actually spend time on the bus, as well as in the classroom and on the playground
2) arrange a meeting with the teacher to address concerns, bringing with you any and all documentation completed in step 1
3) work with the teacher towards a solution. If necessary, involve the school principal and counselor.
4) if agreed upon solution isn't working, contact teacher & principal, copy district resource office
5) If above actions are strictly followed, and behaviour continues or worsens, contact superintendent, copying school teacher, principal & resource officer, and ask for a resolution meeting.

Not that your kid is lying to you, but there's always two sides to each story. You're getting your son's side from him. Now you need to get the other side, and address it appropriately. The district superintendent is not going to respond until you follow the proper steps, as outlined in the district handbook sent home every year with every student in public schools.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/07/2014

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You need to bring this up to the PTA, and the school board. Get the other parents involved.

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