Sandi - posted on 02/01/2010 ( 86 moms have responded )
Hi thank you for reading my post.
My husband and I have one child, she is 10 months old. Although I don't want another one just yet I have always wanted 2 children. I'd never really thought of it as an issue, I was part of a family of four. However, my husband says he is happy giving 100% attention / love / care to our daughter and having another child will mean we need to split our time and attention 50%. He hasn't said no to any more children and is just letting me know how he feels so I feel like I should get an informed decision.
I see where he is coming from but I feel like I would like our daughter to have someone in the world when we are gone. He says she has cousins so she wont be alone. I have too many cousins to count, but the bond is not the same bond as I have with my older brother. I wouldn't be able to sit and talk to them about things we did as we were growing up or feel like we are in the same boat. Plus everywhere caters for families of four and it would be nice for her to have someone to play with (or fight with). On the other hand I know that it would have been nice to spend more time with my mum and dad and have them 100% in their spare time.
I just wondered if you are an only child, would you have liked a brother or sister? And what are peoples general views, why did you choose to have just 1 child or more?