Angelica - posted on 12/29/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )
I have a 6 month old little girl. Me and her dad have been having issues since I was pregnant. I just don't know where to began. Basically though out the time we were together he first had a lot of insecurity issues and was always paranoid that I was cheating on him. When we 1st met and started to get to know eachother he was going through some legal problems and borrowed around $300 bucks from me no problem but then months later his attitude changed and he started stealing from me and lying about it when I brought it up. There were a lot of fights and arguments. Leading up to the time we had our daughter we both wanted to get things right and forgive each other form the past. After out daughter was born I started working from home and to help he would watch her upstairs. He hasn't been able to get a job since he has a felony. Once my daughter turned 2 or 3 months problems started to resurface and we started fighting constantly. Months later we said we were gonna work on our issues and our relationship but then all of a sudden he started not wanting to talk to me and everytime I called him he would get annoyed. Eventually he told me he was seeing someone and I was afraid they were gonna start dating and then that happened. I was so hurt and thrown off because we were supposed to work on us and I didn't even know his mind was fixed to start dating. He told me to get over it and move on. I didn't understand and I was so hurt. This guy already has a son by a previous relationship and then a daughter with me and can barely take care of neither of them. So for a while I afraid he was going to get the new girl pregnant definitely after I found out the girl was a virgin and he took her virginity. The only reason I know is because he told me she was a virgin and then I found a box of condoms with half of them missing. We had a huge argument. I have no clue how old the girl is or if she even knows anything about sex he says it's non of my business and I need to stay in my place but I feel like if he gets this girl pregnant and will become my business when I file child support. He said he has a under the table job so that he could get our daughter something for Christmas but here it is days after Christmas and she still hasn't got anything from him. After the big argument about his new girlfriend he tells me 2 weeks later that he broke up with her to work on us. I agreed we should work it out but I'm not dumb obviously if we don't work out he's gonna go back to her. We're taking "baby steps". He doesn't have a stable place to live so if he's not here with me and our daughter then he's usually with her. He wants his cake and wants to eat it to and he thinks that's okay. I love him but I don't wanna be hurt again and I just feel like I'm setting myself up to be hurt again. He wants me to understand him but he can't even try to understand me and where I'm coming from. Lately I've been thinking about not having him in my daughters life. I just don't feel that's he's a good father figure and just with everything that has happened I'm sick of him. I've had so much faith in us but I'm starting to loose that faith. I'm tired of him taking me for granted and stabbing me in the back. I want her to have her father in her life but I just don't know anymore.