Problems with stepmother badmouthin and aleienating me

Sharla - posted on 01/25/2013 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I have two sons ages 8 and 12 who live with their dad in MT. I moved right after the divorce to GA. He remarried within a few months of the divorce. Right after the divorce before "kelsey" was in the house. I had no problems. Erin did not ever bad mouth me or say cruel things. After Kelsey moved in she started to bad mouth me to my kids. Saying I abandoned them. Dont love them, and replaced them with a new family (I do live with my new fiance and his 12 yr son and 5 yr old daughter but they could and never will replace my kids). I only have the phone to contact them and mail. When I call IF and only IF they answer the phone (most of the time they wont) Kelsey is mean and says things like "It is sharla on the phone do you even want to talk to her". It hurts me greatly. Even though I am angry I have NEVER said a bad thing about her to the boys and just because I moved does not mean I do not love them or abandoned them. What advice can you give me? It hurts deeply. I am afraid I will lose these precious children to her lies. It is so bad if I DO send a letter I have to send it certified to make sure they get it. When we do talk and it is going good the phone has even went dead and then when i call right back it will ring and ring. They will not send me pictures or updates. Erin states that "you left them you have no rights anymore, you made your bed". According to the divorce papers i technicly have half custody still. I am not asking for anything more than to be allowed to be a part of their life. Please help

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Ashlee - posted on 06/01/2013

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I understand you were in an abusive relationship, but I do not understand why you would just up and leave your children. Especially if there was a chance they could be hurt. If my mom had done that to me I would have a lot of resentment toward her too without dad/stepmom encouraging it. You left your own children behind and are helping care for someone elses. Phone calls aren't enough to maintain a relationship with your children. It was your choice to leave, it's their choice to not want to talk to you.

Bobbi Jean - posted on 01/25/2013

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Do not wait a year. See a lawyer now, who is versed in family law in both states. You need to know where you stand legally. Blessings and best of luck.

Dove - posted on 01/25/2013

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Well, technically speaking... if you left without telling anyone and aren't keeping up your end of the visitations.... you kind of did abandon them.

Not really much you can do about it until you get a lawyer and take it back to court. Good luck!

Sharla - posted on 01/25/2013

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Well I am documenting all I can. I plan to get a lawyer but i sorta left without tellin anyone when I left to GA from MT so I am waiting a year before I get a lawyer involved to prove stability. My fiance said he is in violation too as it says right in it that neither parent is to talk bad about the other in the precence of the children. It just is hurtful. I spent alot of days crying. It hurts more than anyone will know. I have nor will I ever say a cross word about Kelsey. Always tell the boys to talk to their dad and Kelsy when somethin comes up so its just hard. Thanks though.

Bobbi Jean - posted on 01/25/2013

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Document things, get a lawyer, and go back to court to force your husband to abide by the agreement. It sounds like he is in violation of the divorce decree.

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