Protect your Infant from "Child Protective Services"

Michele Leslie - posted on 04/01/2014 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Whenever I can sleep, which is rare, I wake up and think "this is all a horrible nightmare." But it's not - I'm in a living hell. I am a first time mom. I have a beautiful baby boy. I cared for him and it is because I lived in the hospital and spent time with him and pumped ebm regularly. You see my baby was premature by 3 months due to placental abruption. My little baby boy was not expected to live and he did, was sure he would have severe brain damage - he didn't. He's a miracle and I took care of him in the NICU for 104 days (3.5 months)....he was growing and developing like a champ. We were nursing successfully. We had an incredibly strong bond: he new my smell, my voice, my touch. I was his security and provided him unconditional love and compassion. He was in a place to thrive. We were getting ready to go home before his due date!

Then this arrogant, rude and abusive people came in and told me my baby would have to go to foster care because their were "serious concerns" about my ability to care for him. (I'll save details for later if anyone is interested). They took my baby, then gave him to foster care and then to his father. He is doing horribly. Yet, the caseworker refuses to believe my concerns - she just wants to have her hands wiped clean of my baby and an extremely difficult high-conflict separating parenting situation: i.e. she was lazy.

This is a story you see on the news and think " that's so sad" .... "the caseworkers are prejudiced and cut corners in their investigation ...they treated the parents like criminals with no sensitivity, no follow up or assistance to families who are are unaware of the resources and supports in their communities" .... "they were manipulative, did little to no follow up" ..... "this poor family went through hell for no appropriate reason; their infant's death was preventable; a result of caseworkers making decisions and abusing their authority far beyond their area of knowledge - too busy and lazy to collaborate with doctors and nurses and therapists."

The only reason my baby is us on the news is that he baby is still alive - damaged permanently physically, emotionally and psychologically - but alive.

I am a mom. A first time mom. I love my baby so much. Our "system" needs a major overhaul in my opinion. How could the trial of an infant,preterm even, be delayed for over a year - without follow up, with emotional abuse and alienation of mom and her baby? I understand this is criminal negligence by the CCC.

Yet, our Provincial System in Alberta (Canada) has not changed. In fact recently, caseworkers responding to concerned person(s) about child protection have been given even more freedom to made independent, major decisions about the rest of an infant's life.

I would like to hear good stories about Child Protective Services, because the only one's the make the news are the horribly sad ones. Or is this issue so common their is not such a solution? Are there any social workers out their who claim they focus on the best interests of the baby but in fact hardly consider the child at all?

My infant son was forced to lose his mom.
All my son knows is that his mom abandoned him - that's all his little brain knows and he cannot express or understand why. So he lives in fear and mistrust because he is being denied of the one thing he felt safe with, secure. He now doesn't bond well and does not show that content sense of trust.
My little boy was ripped away from the only person he knew.
He was denied his breast milk.
He was in high-risk situations with a handful of nannies.

I still can't believe this happened to my baby. I miss him dearly. I have been grieving for over a year now. I've tried to communicate reasonably with all sorts of people and they send me in a circle back to each other - "child protective services" tells me their hands are tied and have to wait for court, crisis lines tell me my concerns are not of harm to the child, social workers and medical staff tell me it's a legal matter and a psycho-social and since there was already a social worker involved - it is for them to follow up.

I feel as though this is living hell and I would never wish this on anyone. Everywhere I see mom's and babies and I hear "I don't know what I'd do if my child was taken from me - I would go crazy - I can't even imagine it."

I am sad and grieving and angry and I will never stop advocating for what is best for my little baby boy.

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Sally - posted on 04/03/2014

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You have got to be jokingl No one who has an ounce of intelligence and knows about Child Protective Service would ever state that CPS does it's job well. They remove children to gain federal funding and pay their paycheck. They use false allegations against parents and twist truth to make a case. Someone needs to educate themselves before speaking! The National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect in Washington DC statistics show that the state does not make a better parent and that children die over 6 to 7 times faster in state care than in parental care.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/02/2014

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No way. Michelle Leslie is right on! Child Protective services is a RACKET and the 10,000+ plus people in over 500 groups on facebook proves it. Get a reality check and look around you. CPS is abusing families at an alarming rate and it is a terrible tragedy that many innocent families have been put through.

The incentive is to remove children, getting bonuses and federal tax reimbursements from the Title IV funds. Children's courts are secret unconstitutional "forms" of civil court and now a days cps is used as a tool for the parent to attack the other parent. There is no due process or even a right to present and submit evidence for parents.

Child Protective Services has morphed into an INDUSTRY and it's much ado about the federal dollars than saving any children. See fightcps and families against gov't abuse groups and online websites. This is a national problem that is not going away and getting much worse. Children are nothing more than a commodity to feed the foster and adoption industries. Circle of moms needs to get educated about the problem instead of blindly defending the sick system it is.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/01/2014

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You said there were 'details'. That generally means that CPS didn't 'swoop in' and 'snatch' the baby. That generally means that somewhere along the line, someone turned in a concern, and they may have found it justified.

I'm not saying that you did anything wrong, but in my experience, CPS does exactly what it is supposed to, and protects children.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/19/2014

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missy, I followed their link, and then searched the name. I'm not saying everything on the web is right, but I'm certain that several different news sources reporting the same events are fairly reliable.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 05/18/2014

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@ Luke's Army...Your child was removed due to drug use in your home. YOU ADMITTED you'd only gotten clean AFTER they took your kid.

My condolences for your loss, but perhaps, had you gotten clean BEFORE you lost custody, you'd still have that precious child. I'll hold any more comments until I find the court documents about what the foster family was charged with. I agree the circumstances seem 'off' in that area.

However, your child was not snatched away for no reason...you were on drugs!!!

And, I'm betting that the OP's situation, those 'details' that she doesn't wish to share, would be something similar...drug or severe alcohol abuse...

Lukes - posted on 05/18/2014

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DSS and affiliates rewarded for breaking up families

By Nev Moore
Massachusetts News

Child "protection" is one of the biggest businesses in the country. We spend $12 billion a year on it.

The money goes to tens of thousands of a) state employees, b) collateral professionals, such as lawyers, court personnel, court investigators, evaluators and guardians, judges, and c) DSS contracted vendors such as counselors, therapists, more "evaluators", junk psychologists, residential facilities, foster parents, adoptive parents, MSPCC, Big Brothers/Big Sisters, YMCA, etc. This newspaper is not big enough to list all of the people in this state who have a job, draw a paycheck, or make their profits off the kids in DSS custody.

In this article I explain the financial infrastructure that provides the motivation for DSS to take people’s children – and not give them back.

In 1974 Walter Mondale promoted the Child Abuse and Prevention Act which began feeding massive amounts of federal funding to states to set up programs to combat child abuse and neglect. From that came Child "Protective" Services, as we know it today. After the bill passed, Mondale himself expressed concerns that it could be misused. He worried that it could lead states to create a "business" in dealing with children.

Then in 1997 President Clinton passed the "Adoption and Safe Families Act." The public relations campaign promoted it as a way to help abused and neglected children who languished in foster care for years, often being shuffled among dozens of foster homes, never having a real home and family. In a press release from the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services dated November 24, 1999, it refers to "President Clinton’s initiative to double by 2002 the number of children in foster care who are adopted or otherwise permanently placed."

It all sounded so heartwarming. We, the American public, are so easily led. We love to buy stereotypes; we just eat them up, no questions asked. But, my mother, bless her heart, taught me from the time I was young to "consider the source." In the stereotype that we’ve been sold about kids in foster care, we picture a forlorn, hollow-eyed child, thin and pale, looking up at us beseechingly through a dirt streaked face. Unconsciously, we pull up old pictures from Life magazine of children in Appalachia in the 1930s. We think of orphans and children abandoned by parents who look like Manson family members. We play a nostalgic movie in our heads of the little fellow shyly walking across an emerald green, manicured lawn to meet Ward and June Cleaver, his new adoptive parents, who lead him into their lovely suburban home. We imagine the little tyke’s eyes growing as big as saucers as the Cleavers show him his very own room, full of toys and sports gear. And we just feel so gosh darn good about ourselves.

Now it’s time to wake up to the reality of the adoption business.

Very few children who are being used to supply the adoption market are hollow-eyed tykes from Appalachia. Very few are crack babies from the projects. [Oh… you thought those were the children they were saving? Think again]. When you are marketing a product you have to provide a desirable product that sells. In the adoption business that would be nice kids with reasonably good genetics who clean up good. An interesting point is that the Cape Cod & Islands office leads the state in terms of processing kids into the system and having them adopted out. More than the inner city areas, the projects, Mission Hill, Brockton, Lynn, etc. Interesting…

With the implementation of the Adoption and Safe Families Act, President Clinton tried to make himself look like a humanitarian who is responsible for saving the abused and neglected children. The drive of this initiative is to offer cash "bonuses" to states for every child they have adopted out of foster care, with the goal of doubling their adoptions by 2002, and sustaining that for each subsequent year. They actually call them "adoption incentive bonuses," to promote the adoption of children.

Where to Find the Children

A whole new industry was put into motion. A sweet marketing scheme that even Bill Gates could envy. Now, if you have a basket of apples, and people start giving you $100 per apple, what are you going to do? Make sure that you have an unlimited supply of apples, right?

Read More and find out the truth about CPS

http://www.lukesarmy.com/content/adoptio...

Missie - posted on 05/18/2014

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REALLY???? First of all CPS is not an organization that is running around pulling kids out of their homes or hospitals!!! Evidently there is way more to this story then we are being told. To state that the incentive is to remove children, getting bonuses and federal tax reimbursements from the Title IV funds is ridiculous..........a system that is already unable to handle its caseloads now and children slip through the cracks at alarming rates. CPS job is to protect children and evidently they felt that something was wrong here. I am sure that they provided you with information on what you need to do to get your child back into your life, parenting classes and so on........do it!!!

Michele Leslie - posted on 04/08/2014

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Thanks for the replies.....I expected a variety of opinions.

I will give more details on my situation later on. It's sad because our son has suffered from neglect and has permanent damage done to him because his father refused to take him to medical appointments or let him breast-feed. He was supposed to get special care and turned it down without even consulting me.

In response to fathers.....I fully advocate for fathers to be in their child's life. The father of my baby cheated on me in the second month of pregnancy. I got over it and encouraged him to start bonding with the fetus when he started kicking. I even invited both him and his new gf over so we could get to know each other before baby was born. I set up a spare room so that after the baby was born, the father and his gf could stay overnight anytime and get up with our son as dad works 6 days a week. He just refused it all which is really sad.

My son's father is a rare one though.....he needs the power/control and will do anything to take it. I actually reported to my abuse counselor that I wished he was one of those "deadbeat dad's" - I personally hate that phrase because I know how manipulative females can be in keeping dad's out. But this dad didn't want to bond or be involved - he just wanted to take the baby. I would pay him money monthly if he would go away and get some help and return to be a good role model for his son.

It is natural for a newborn to be with mom in the first month and dad should be around as much as possible. Dad's don't lactate or carry the baby for 9 months so handing baby over to dad who hasn't been around mom is cruel to the newborn.

Anyway......I know my situation is one of those horror stories and it is wrong and it is so awful for our son. The social workers that dealt with us were idiots but make pediatric recommendations and decisions about placement that were prejudiced by many factors.....hmmmm single mom vs a father who suddenly has a fiance and "family" as she has 3 kids. I tried to bring them all down to earth but child services made false accusations, changed their story every day and I couldn't keep my emotions hidden. If someone says they are going to take your baby away, crying and being completely devastated is a normal response. Child services provokes mom's so they react and they can add to their story that "mom is emotionally unstable". Seriously.

Anyway father will be served next week with contempt of court action and then to be transferred to Queen's Bench and Special Chambers. Even though I'm so disgusted at what he's done to our son, I still advocate for his presence. He needs help though and we need to seek counseling - he refuses both.

So ya my situation is unique but it is also disgusting because protocols were breached and our son has been harmed now and child services tells me "our hands are tied it's in the courts hands now". Really??? The jerks I was with were lazy cows and that's all I have to say today.

Michele :)

My son's father was emotionally abusive and a bully - Child Services were assholes and bullies.

Mike - posted on 04/03/2014

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Happens to fathers EVERY DAY OF THE WEEK! Since this is how you (and your feminist sisters wanted it) I have zero sympathy for you. How does it feel? Maybe you should line up along side of the millions of fathers who have lost their children simply because they were born with a penis; these men are trying to make a difference in this family court nightmare. Instead of calling them all 'dead-beat-dads' when you have no idea in what manner family court STOLE THEIR CHILDREN away from them, you should assume that the corrupt court system stole yet another child for profit!
Both CPS and family court get a cut of every dollar that father pays! Look up Title V of the social security act for an eye opening expierence! The feds pay the state for every dollar they ransom away from fathers!
Look up AVOICEFORMEN and get involved in real change!

Karma stings yes?

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