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Amy - posted on 05/06/2010
Stop giving him $$ for gas or going out with friends. Takeaway the car (if he didn't pay for it), make him get a job, take away the video games, make him do the yard work. Start counting down the number of days before he leaves for college, and in 5 years he'll appreciate everything you did to get him to the point he's at in his life!
Courtney - posted on 05/06/2010
lol you dont now a days you just keep wisihing for there 18th birthday to come along..atleast thats what most people do now a days...the way i see it is hes still got a year with you so hes gonna listen and respect you for that year if he doesnt try boot camp at that age its good for behavior and also sets them straight and prepared for what the world is about to hand them. Obviously the grounding-yelling-lockdown at home doesnt work at that age, he probally has had a taste of freedom and now wants nothing but it. You can either trust him and know hes ready to take on the real world early or you can go the other way and get him more prepared and theres other things besides bootcamp search ur area for more discipline areas for teens..Hope i helped a little..
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Beata - posted on 08/26/2012
Better to change negative to positive if possible, the only way is to change the pattern of negative and undesirable behaviour to the desirable. Punishment usually doesn't work, better it is to focus on rewarding of positive behaviour...
Heather - posted on 05/07/2010
Thank everyone for the replies. I already took the cell and the games, now, he can't have his girlfriend come over and he have to come straight home after school. If he continues to misbehave, I'm really thinking about boot-camp or miltary school and taking away all sports. Thanks ladies, Happy mothers Day to all!!
Jenn - posted on 05/07/2010
Grounding. Take things away. Not sure - when I was that age my parents sort of gave up and asked that I at least be thoughtful enough to let them know where I was but otherwise I did what I wanted. I will not be taking that same approach when my kids get older. One thing that I think would have helped me, was to be involved in something - anything! Sports, clubs, hobbies - I think if they are not bored they are less likely to get into trouble.
JuLeah - posted on 05/06/2010
Well, my child is just eight, so I am not there yet. I see so many parents with teen who deal with this issue.
What I see is the child coming in late, breaking all the house rules, screaming at their folks .... then demanding gas money and lunch money ..... and storming out the door.
If the kid is 17, you hold the car keys and unless they have a job, you hold the cash. That gives you a lot of power.
I see so many teens that just assume mom will pay for the car and the phone and the computer, and the TV, and the entertainment ..... and inspite of their behavior, or grades ..... mom does. I can't wrap my brain around that.
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