Putting adult kids out for abusive/destructive behavior

Shannon - posted on 09/11/2016 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My son is 24 and is generally ok. Sometimes he can be flip on the mouth and I have to check him. But yesterday he completely blind sighted me in front of his girlfriend. He cursed me out and punched me in my jaw where I had been having a severe toothache for the past 2 weeks. I told him to get out and not return til he's ready to collect his belongings. This was really stupid and unnecessary. He must not understand the problems an assault charge would have on him. Should I have done something different?

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Dove - posted on 09/11/2016

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By the time my kids are 12 or so they know that if they lay a hand on me I will press charges. My home is not one of violence and no one is allowed to hit me or me hit them.

Shannon - posted on 09/11/2016

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You know what, I'm still considering doing it. Maybe some time behind bars and a criminal record is just what he needs. He really doesn't get that this will follow him forever and ruin his military career. It's extremely difficult as a mother to be put in this position in the first place. But I didn't do it he did. I put my daughter's father out after 7yrs for the exact same thing only to have my own son do it. I feel like I'm having flashbacks. The thought of him in prison literally makes me ill because he couldn't survive it. He said many years ago if he ever had to do time he'd take him life first. I couldn't like with that but I can't live with him either. SOS!

Jodi - posted on 09/11/2016

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He's bloody lucky you didn't charge him with assault. I probably would have. Son or not, he can't do that.

Shannon - posted on 09/11/2016

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Thanks. I know this wasn't my fault yet somehow I still feel like crap. Keep thinking if I had done something different there might have been a different outcome. Yet im the one sitting here in so much pain with my jaw swollen and can't open my mouth. I feel like a horrible mother for wanting to hurt him for what he did to me. I have an 8yr old daughter that witnessed this mess. She thinks her brother doesn't love us. I'm afraid she's right. That's what hurts the most. How do I accept that? He's 24yrs old and I've sacrificed so much for him now I'm disabled can't work. He takes the car stays gone for days or weeks we're left completely stuck in the house all day and night. It literally feels like prison. I would be so great to get out and see other people. My daughter can play with kids her age and not be around me all day and night except for school it's just not healthy. She's really not happy. Don't know what to do next but I'm so refreshing to see someone sees things the same as I.

Michelle - posted on 09/11/2016

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No, you did the right thing. I would also let hum know that the next time he even just lays a finger on someone in anger, you will press assault charges against him.
No one has a right to hit another!

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