question about Dating a Guy without kids

Sarai - posted on 04/09/2016 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I'm dating a guy that never had kids, and he is struggling with my kids that their 7 year old. What can I do in this situation with him. I feel that he don't want this but he say that he wants a family..

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Michelle - posted on 04/10/2016

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I agree with Dove, it's far too soon to be introducing the kids to him. You need to know that it's going to be a long term relationship before introducing the children.

In saying that, my husband was 40 and had never been married or had children when I met him. I already had 2 children from my 1st marriage. He has been amazing with my boys and we also have a 6yo girl together. Just because he doesn't have children of his own doesn't mean he doesn't know how to be a good role model, that just an excuse not to get too involved. My boys were 7 and 5 when I met my current husband and they absolutely adore him, even now in their teen and preteen years.

Just remember it's not his job to step in and be a parent, that is still up to you. Don't expect him to discipline or take charge of any problems. He is there to back you up but you are the parent and it's your job to to discipline.

Dove - posted on 04/09/2016

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Only dating 2 months is way too early for him to be involved w/ your kids yet.

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Sarai - posted on 04/10/2016

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Thank You Michelle, it was my mistake to push him with my kids. So should I just let him see if this what he wants.

Sarai - posted on 04/09/2016

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He never had kids and his brother either, so for him is all new and is making him think that he can't do the whole fatherly figure to my kids. I been a single mother for 7 years, my children father never been part of their life, I was the only parent my kids new. So I though me dating again will help find someone that will accept my children like his own, but the sometime is hard to find person with good heart. My boyfriend is a good person but I feel that he need guidance from someone that have kids or a family. He's afraid that he won't be a good parent to my kids and that I won't allow him to help me out.

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