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Ally - posted on 10/05/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi to all the Moms out there,

I have been a nanny to a 3 year old girl since she was around 8 months old now. The mom is a stay-at-home mom, and the dad is in medicine. Child is in full day preschool 4 days a week, and then I am there some evenings and weekends. 90% of the time the mom is home (stays in her bedroom). It was easier when child was younger, but now that she understands and is aware that Mom is in house it is hard to do my job, for example getting her ready for bed etc. The mom and I have a good relationship, and I have been worrying more than usual lately. My opinion is that she is depressed, possibly from Post-partum. I know it is not my place to interfere, however I find it very difficult as I care very much for the child and see how it is influencing her attachment with parents and behaviour....

Sorry for the long post! Was wondering if any moms had any advice for me?

Thanks so much!

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Gena - posted on 10/06/2015

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When you talk to her let her know that what ever you two talk will stay between the two of you.

Melissa - posted on 10/06/2015

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Gosh that is a tough situation! If your gut feeling tells you something is wrong, then you are probably right. Maybe schedule a time when you aren't caring for her daughter, after work hours, to chat with her. Just like any working relationship, you should have regular 'meetings' to discuss how things are going. Express your concern about her daughter being more aware of her being home and how you wanted to get her opinion on it. Maybe ask her how she is doing in general and it could open the door to talk to you about what's going on if she is ready. Hope it all works out!

Gena - posted on 10/05/2015

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First of all i find it very nice of you that you worry and have concerns. You wrote you have a good relationship with the mother. Why don't you once try talk to her. Tell her how you feel and that you are concerned. I know it may be hard because she is your "boss". But give it a try! And let her know you are only worried about her and that you want to help. Good luck

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Ally - posted on 10/06/2015

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Hi Gena,

Thanks! I will definitely think about it. Only thing that makes me a bit nervous, is she is an extremely private person.

Appreciate it!

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