question....my daughter and another little girl got real attached but the girl's mom causes nothing but drama that i just don't need or want in my life,should i cut the ties and encourage my daughter to start making other friends or since they are so close should i continue to put up with the girl's mom causing drama in my life?

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Melissa - posted on 11/23/2012

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i thought about acutually telling the school to look into more on who they have around the kids, but i don't want her or her daughter to be embarassed, and my daughter had a tough time adjusting to school and now she is and she loves her teacher....i just make sure i get to the school in enough time before they get out. thank you for your advice, it was helpfull

Lori - posted on 11/23/2012

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Oh my. That's scary. That's stalker crazy. Thank you for telling me in detail. It would be nice if you could sit down and have a conversation with this lady explaining how you feel. Maybe she might behave for her child's sake. I personally don't think it would make a difference. I wish it were that simple. But, it's not. I think I would just break all contact knowing what I know now. I know that a total 180 from what I was saying before, but she doesn't seem to be a rational adult. You say she is your daughter's room Mother? Is it possible to move your daughter to another room? If not, talk to the teacher and explain what is going on and that you don't want your child to interact with this woman at all. I feel for your daughter's friend but you have to put your baby girl first. Tell your parents not to talk to her when she calls and ask her as politely as you can not to show up at your house. I might go one step further and have her investigated. You can go online now and order someone's criminal background info with just a few pieces of info. I can imagine you don't want your daughter around someone that lies like this woman does. I think you already know what you need to do but you are hesitant because of your little one. As much as I feel for this little girl, I think you need to stop that relationship in it's tracks. I wish I could give more encouraging advice.

Melissa - posted on 11/23/2012

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i'm stuck because the girls love each other so much, i'd feel bad to take anything away from them but this is an ugly situation and in the short period of time in knowing this woman i just think it would get more out of hand.....she is nuts even when i don't respond to her or i do set up a play date whatever it is this woman acts weird.....and she is just so adament on taking my daughter to her house or even out for the day....but she is a drug user i will never allow it, so i just politly say no without giving her a reason

Melissa - posted on 11/23/2012

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she is only 5 so she wouldn't understand. i have no problem with the girls being friends and playing at school but when it comes to play dates, i really have to think about it now. the woman is a compulsive liar and tries to create the drama well not try she does. my daughter has other friends where i'm not friends with the parent but this case is terrible, i want to change my number and move because of this woman. and the worst thing is she is the room parent for the girls....and i would send my daughter to her house if she was trust worthy but she is not at all....and now she is trying to go through my parents to set up play dates, really how old are we...and randomly shows up at my house and leaves crazy messages and makes things up about my daughter....it's bizare...i don't want a thing to do with it

Lori - posted on 11/23/2012

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That's a hard one. How old is your daughter? Would she be old enough to understand why you are hesitant to be around her friend's Mom? If she's old enough, you could just be honest and tell her that Mommy does not have anything in common with her friend's Mom so you two will not be hanging out. Just make sure she understands it's ok for her to be friends with this child. It's all going to factor on how well the girl's Mother takes to being told that your kids are friends....you two are not! lol I would give it a try before I made her cut ties with someone she feels so strongly about as a friend. But in the end, you have to be practical. Eventually the other Mom's drama will spill over directly onto your daughter and then it will get ugly. I suppose you just have to play it by ear. My daughter is only 4 so I haven't any experience in this department. I feel like I just rambled instead of helping you. Keep in touch and let me know how you handled this. I might need to recall this in a few years.

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