Rabbi plaing matchmaker between gay men and lesbian women?

Jennifer - posted on 09/06/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I read this in Time magazine, or I would have posted a link. Apparently, an orthadox Jewish Rabbi in Isreal is helping gay men find lesbians to marry and have a family with. Both adults want to have a 'normal' family. I assume they do this to fit in and have children. When asked if the partners in these marriages were commited to only each other, the rabbi said that was left up to the couple, he only intruduced them. It told how he was very secrative about it all. At first I was kinda happy. Gays don't really have any rights in that part of the world, and he is 'helping' them. After thinking on it a bit, though, I'm a little offended. If he cares for the people, shouldn't he speak out? Shouldn't he help them be accepted? Do I dare even judge a man who is trying to help? Interestingly, one of the men who help the rabbi set the meetings, was gay and very supportive, but he said he would never get married, as he was 'too gay' to have sex with a woman. So, any veiws on this one?

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Jane - posted on 09/06/2011

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Women can manage to have sex with someone to whom they are not attracted, but men typically find it hard to do. Thus, I fail to see the point, unless these folks are simply to serve as "beards" for each other.

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JuLeah - posted on 09/06/2011

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He is attempting to 'help' by asking them to be different then who they are, different then God made them. He is asking them to lie and encouraging the idea that being gay is something to lie and hide and be ashamed of ... he is very very wrong

Tara - posted on 09/06/2011

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Kind of like the virgin brides who are women who take on the role of a man to keep status within the family and ownership of property etc when there is not male to inherit family deeds etc.
They can never marry and must dress and act as men their whole life.
Not exactly the same, but the idea of masking ones identity for societal acceptance isn't new, the only difference here is that it is being sanctioned and assisted by a man of religion in the name of "helping" or "protecting" people who don't fit the societal norms.

If both parties are willing and the arrangements are clear from the get go about sex, roles and responsibilities, other partners etc. then go for it! I still think people all over the world should be working harder at establishing gay and lesbian rights within their borders.

Michelle - posted on 09/06/2011

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What you've got to think is this came out of a magazine so do you really know the whole story here? Certainly an interesting read though - not sure what I think.

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