Raising a bi-racial child

Phyllis - posted on 08/28/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )




My husband and I adopted a biracial little boy at birth and then my husband left when he was 4 years old. He is now 6 years old and starting first grade. I am worried about my ability to raise him in an all white all female household and still teach him what he needs to be successful and, more important than successful, happy in life.

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Crystal - posted on 09/25/2011




our situations sound very similiar My ex husband and i also adopted a biracial baby at birth and he left when my son was 5. We dont need men in our lives to make our children happy and successful, they just need love and support and to be taught about their hertiage when they are ready. My son is doing just fine and would probaly be better if "dad" didnt come see him 4x a month. Hold your head high and just be the best mommy to that little guy. In the end thats what children need more then anything is stability, love, support,discpline,encourgament, and their mommy:) Good luck.

Nikki - posted on 08/31/2009




i have 3 almost 4 bi racial children ( mine are hispanic and white) and my cousin has a bi racial son( black and white) we have both found that there are so many ways to embrace both cultures my oldest is 9 and she knows about all the mexican holidays and why the celebrate and what they celebrate. she is proud of where she comes from and if anyone asks her she is proud to say she is mexican and american. she does go to a school where there are 2 "mixed' children the school has a program that they started for " different " children i will not let her be part of it cause i feel it would seperate her. make sure your child has strong role modles from both cultures and both sexes and give him lots of love and support and you will do fine!!!

Sharon - posted on 08/30/2009




Find a store/cultural group that caters to his nationality. Take him to their events. Japanese, Greeks, Chinese etc all have their special holidays and they celebrate them. There are cultural clubs. Research his nationality and find all the appropriate holidays and cultural meanings, etc. Raise him as much as your nationality and religion will allow as he would have been raised in his native country.

What he really needs is your love and acceptance. How sad and pitiful a man your exhusband is.

You will be fine. Your son will be fine. Hang in there momma.

Esmeralda - posted on 08/30/2009




i would look into the Big Brother Program or the Boy Scouts/Cub Scouts.(yes,there is a bad stigma behind it,but parents can be at EVERY meeting.they can even go on camping trips with them!or you could be a "den mother").both programs are great for young boys so they can grow into great men.

just give your son as much love and support as you can.

good luck!

Alison - posted on 08/28/2009




Is his dad completely out of the picture? What your son really needs is a lot of love and encouragement, which you can give him. Maybe you can get him into the big brother program if you don't have a close friend or family member to be a role model for him.

Renee - posted on 08/28/2009




My son was born in Kolkata India.I adopted him at 3 1/2(He remembers everything about India.I'm white My late DH was black and had severe Brittle bone disease.He was 2ft tall.I had my bi racial daughter 21 months ago.If you have books,movies and freinds to help him understand his other culture .A strong Male mentor would help too.For Nigel coming from a male dominant culture men in his life are important to him.

Helen - posted on 08/28/2009




i don't have exactly the same problem as you, but my baby is half french half english and there are some big differences in our cultures. All i can say is be open to embrace all things in life and as long as you are there for him he will be happy in life. I myself am adopted and was raised by a catholic mother and jewish father, I was taught about all religions and cultures and i think that my adoptive family raised me very well

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