Rose - posted on 01/12/2015 ( 19 moms have responded )
My daughter came home at Christmas time and announced she is getting married. I do like the guy she plans to marry. I just do not like the way our conversations all end up. It's her way or the highway.
We are from a larger community 100,000 people and have high expectations for her. She has attended school for 4 years, received a bachelors degree and now wants to live on a farm 40 miles away from a city of about 20,000 people. That is her choice.
But the problem my husband and I are having is she insists on having the wedding date in a small town or about 150 and it is 5 miles from her soon to be inlaws and 5 1/2 hour drive from us - her parents.
She disagrees about the locations, I would like it to be in the middle for both of us. She won't consider changing the date to one week earlier - her only brother-in-law has a conflict.
To us this is very degrading.
The accommodations are sketchy. Catering seems like the only option for food.
She always says if you don't like what we want to do then, I will pay for it myself.
I told her to move up a week and move it to halfway between each of our places.
What should I/we do?