Really need baby advice to help me have my first child ,Ready to be a mommy

Taylor - posted on 10/11/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I want a baby so bad I am ready for one and I am in a relationship where I feel complete and I just want to know what I may be doing wrong and what I can do to help myself get pregnant,please help!!! Also I was wondering if anyone knew how much a OBGYN may cost

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Oh, and when you do get pregnant buy yourself a good book on pregnancy and childbirth and a book on your baby's development and baby care. Read them from cover to cover while you are pregnant and learn it. Then when you come to CoMs, you won't be here to ask the silly questions that some have asked over the years, but to share your own experiences. :-)

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I don't know about the cost of OB/GYN where you live, but I'm sure you could phone around and get some information about that.

As for getting pregnant, start taking some pregnancy vitamins and eliminate unhealthy eating. Lots of fresh whole foods and try to stay clear of overly processed foods. If you smoke, quit. If you like to drink alcohol then either cut right back or stop altogether. Do some exercise and get your body strong and fit. Pregnancy takes it's toll and so you want your body to be as fit and healthy as you can manage so that you will optimise your chances of falling pregnant and staying healthy throughout.

...and of course the best bit about trying to get pregnant : lots and lots of sex!!! Good Luck.

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Taylor - posted on 10/11/2012

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Actually I am ready its just I wanted to know because I thought it would be nice to get some advice since it would be my first child it would be different if I was having my second or third child but its not and I don't have insurance so I am getting some but I wanted advice on what to do so when I get insurance I can proceed into having kids and its no rush I just want to be prepared I do want one but I know I want to be financially ready I am not dumb my sister was a young mom twice so I know to wait I just feel and know I am ready mentally and no just cause I want a child doesn't mean I am not happy in my relationship I am complete and VERY happy with my boyfriend we just want to start a family and we do want to get married and we have talked about it we just want to wait a little longer we know what we are doing. I am 21 and I am ready, just need the insurance so I can get myself health for when I have a baby, I know your just helping but your coming off kind of rude

DeAnn - posted on 10/11/2012

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If you've never been to an ob/gyn you are NOT ready for a baby. At age 18, every woman should get a regular pap smear. You should know by now how much that costs and be able to consult your doctor about how much his/her ob costs are, or at least be able to check your insurance to see what they cover.



Are you in the US? Just being pregnant will cost you about $2,000 in doctor visits if you're uninsured and can't get Medicaid. But if you can get Medicaid, you're not financially ready. Even with insurance, my daughter's regular vaginal birth cost us $3600 out of pocket - that's $36,000 worth of hospital costs, since insurance paid 90%. Double that if you have to have a c-section. Triple that if you have to have a c-section for twins.



You're also not ready in your relationship. If he's really serious about starting a family with you, why hasn't he proposed? If you're both against the institution of marriage, a civil union or commonlaw marriage would at least indicate he'll stick around afterwards. How does he feel?



You wouldn't be asking for advice if you are ready, and if you are really "complete" in your relationship, why are you looking for more love, or even advice on the Internet about this? Give it some more thought. Maybe seek professional counseling. If you can't afford that, well, you can't afford a baby.

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