Really worried about labour....

Alisa - posted on 03/21/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Im due in less than a month and i can stop thinking about labour, even slightly losing sleep. This is my first baby and iv done the pre-natal class's n'everything. Any tips to help ease my mind or even tips for during labour?

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Mariah - posted on 10/18/2012

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Dawn - posted on 03/21/2009

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EPIDURAL!  I had one with all three of my kids.  And, as far as the disconnect that can happen with an epidural...I had it both ways.  What seems to be the pattern for me personally is that when I got the epidural earlier on in the labor I could feel more at the end and didn't have the disconnect of having to have them tell me when I was having a contraction so I could push.  That was, overall, a better experience for me.  If you want to try it natural, that's cool too--I wasn't sure about the epidural on my first one, but became sure very quickly once in labor.  All that being said...I know I have a really low pain threshhold.  Remember, there are no awards given for not taking medicine.  One of my good friends once equated it to going to the dentist--you wouldn't have a filling done with no novacaine, so why have a baby with no pain relief? 



DON'T let other moms scare you about labor.  I think when people (usually strangers) see a really pregnant woman they usually break out all the horror stories they ever heard!  I hope you have a doctor you can trust.  It's okay to have a birth plan, but just go with the flow once you are there and remember that those helping you have done this more often than you have!

Kathleen - posted on 03/21/2009

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hello i dont think you should stress out about it. i had an epidural and everything went fine for me the only bad thing is that when you have an epidural you have to have a catheter aswel and that caused me allot of problems for a few months afterwards but the same problems can happen even if you go natural. i still remember everything that happened and i even got to sleep for a few hours while i was in labour!!! which i thought was awesome!!! i didnt do pre natal classes which i got into trouble from the nurses!!! so you are probly more prepared than me.. i guess you just have to not listen to all the horror stories out there that will scare you and my mother told me before i had my son all the pain you go thro it doesent matter because you forget about it quickly! which is true! just try and stay calm it will all be over soon and then you will have your baby and you will forget everything (hopefully) :) also i can see you are young i was 18 when i had my son and the nurses gave me a realy bad time id say that was the worst thing about my whole experience... so dont put up with anyones shit if they are rude!!!

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Ashley - posted on 03/21/2009

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When I was pregnant I was really worried about labor too, I think it is very common for first time mothers. When I was in labor...this is gonna sound funny but, my mother painted my toe nails to keep my mind off the pain and it seemed to help. I also had a bunch of my family in the room, like my husband, my mom, my dad, my grandma and grandpa, my cousin, and my mother in law, I always had someone to talk to, that seemed to help as well.  You need to find something that will make you more comfortable and take your mind off the pain while you are in labor. Also, get the drugs they offer you, they will help TONS.  Congrats on your new baby and everything will be ok. Good luck!

Jolene - posted on 03/21/2009

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I think everyone probably builds it up in their minds and freaks themsevles out a little bit. I remeber going into labor and being like "okay I change my mind" haha, but it definatly was not as bad as I thought it would be. Yes the contractions are crappy but once you get to the pushing part it's not that bad (assuming you have the urge to push, because some people don't). Once the baby is out, it's over. I deliverd on my knees leaning up against the back of the bed and thought it was the best thing ever! I recommend it to anyone who feels comfortable with it. I was pushing on my back for close to an hour with not much results, I got up to walk and went and sat on the toilet...once I realized how much better it felt being in that sort of a position I went back to the bed and did the rest on my knees. It was very quick from there! Just have an open mind and don't feel like you have to stick to some particular 'birth plan'. I did not have an epidural, but I did get a shot of morphine when I was 4cm. It helped get through most of the contractions, but it does not take away the pain. It just helps you to relax and keeps your cervix soft. If you get it that early it's already worn off by the time you deliver so you don't have to worry about having a sleepy baby! Good luck and don't stress yourself our worrying too much!

Emily - posted on 03/21/2009

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MarthaLynn has some really great advice so I won't get redundant one mantra you might want to remember is that women have been doing this troughout history and that you will have your baby and then it will be over!

Sarah - posted on 03/21/2009

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when i went into labour i had a nice bath because i was'nt dilated after the bath i had dilated to 8cm in an hour so have a nice bath even get some relaxing music to try and calm you when the day arrives and i found when i went into labour yes i was nerves but so excited aswell

MarthaLynn - posted on 03/21/2009

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I used the Bradley method of childbirth.  They wouldn't let me get off my side at first because the monitor kept sliding off and they thought my son's heartbeat was slowing (idiots!).  But then they let me stand up and walk around.  I dilated 5 cm in 20 mins walking.  I also used a birthing ball.  What also worked really well was I stood in front of my hubby and completely let all my weight on him.  He held me up under my arms and I had the luxury of being upright, but not supporting myself in any way.  He really was great.  I told him that if he started rubbing my arm at any point, I would slug him, and he did really well. LOL.  My mom stood behind me while he held me up and used on of those Batha nd Body Works vibrating massagers on my lower back and it really helped.  I just kept changing techniques.  Deep breathing was a life saver when they told me to stay on my side.  I just concentrated on breathing slowly and regularly and the time just flew by.  I think I might have put myself into a trance...

Alisa - posted on 03/21/2009

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i havn't decided yet on an epidural or not. Id really like to try natural, im just mostly "scared" i guess, but i want to remeber the experience. and yes any tips you could give me im deffanitly open

MarthaLynn - posted on 03/21/2009

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Do you know whether you are going to have an epidural or go natural.  I've done both and I'd definitely say natural was better.  When I had an epidural I was completely disconnected from the whole experience.  Pictures of me look like I'm stoned, laying in the hospital bed...LOL .  I had a natural childbirth 6 months ago and while it was going on, I thought, "I can't do this!"  When it was over I was like, "Well, that wasn't so bad at all!"  If you know what to do and you have someone to help you through it, it's not really as bad as you think it is.   I have a plethera of tips, if you want some!

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