rebellious teenage daughter

Desiree - posted on 07/02/2015 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Am leaving out of state and my 16year old daughter doesn't wanna go because she dont wanna leave her 18year ld boyfriend alone...I got in many agruments not in person about it but in text when shes at his house.And yesterday finally in person she got smart and told me she wasn't going and i told her too bad your are.Dont like her boyfriend one bit hes bad influence and puts crap in her head.,i keep texting him and telling him je has a big influence on how she feels and thinks.And that she cant breathe or think because we are leaving Wednesday and hes on her 24/7 sort of speak.And am just afraid that when Wednesday comes she might give me hassle or try to hide..what should i do have her escorted on the greyhound with me and her sister by the police officials?

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Taaah! Mechionu! chaaaiii

My dear I totally disagree with you texting him. You need to have a two-girls-talking talk with your daughter or let someone else she trust do it. Fight for her

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Taaah! Mechionu! chaaaiii

My dear I totally disagree with you texting him. You need to have a two-girls-talking talk with your daughter or let someone else she trust do it. Fight for her

Jodi - posted on 07/03/2015

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I was giving advice....don't dictate to her, and stop texting her boyfriend.

Michelle - posted on 07/03/2015

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All Jodi was saying was that with teens you have to discuss things together like adults, not just dictate to them. That's when they stick in their heels and rebel. They may even think you're right but just out of spite (because you TOLD them instead of discussing) they will do the opposite.

You have to tread carefully with teens and texting her boyfriend won't be getting her on your side. He will be telling or showing her what you are sending and that will make her even more determined to go against what you want.
You can't treat a teen like a toddler, they just don't respond the same way.

Desiree - posted on 07/02/2015

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First..off am telling him in text rather rhan agrue in person..and am telling him not arguing letting him know where am comming from!!And i worked with daughter threw alot and done all ive could for her so its gone to the point where she chooses him regardless of the coincidences. And if she lives..excuse me am responsible..seriously..lol,What. She does as a minor is my responsibility..i mean ccome on...and i live in California.thank u thou.I wanted advise no badgering!!??

Jodi - posted on 07/02/2015

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Wow, you are getting into text arguments with your daughter AND you are texting her boyfriend telling him what you think. That's a really mature way to deal with it! Sorry, but telling a child that this is what you are doing and you have absolutely no say in it.....by TEXT...is not going to help at all. Are you leaving permanently or is this a vacation?

I don't know what the laws are where you are, so I can't advise on the escort, but where I am, you wouldn't have a leg to stand on. That girl could leave home if she chose to and there wouldn't be a damn thing you could do about it if you lived here. You really are not helping your relationship with her by dealing with it this way. How about you listen to her concerns and sit and work through them WITH her, not act as if you are her master and jailer? Do you really think getting the law involved and having her escorted is going to make things better?

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