Shannon - posted on 07/29/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
Raising my 18 year old has been a struggle the last few years...cutting, skipping school, smoking pot, sexual encounters and tons of lying. This all stopped when she started dating a boy in her senior year...and ended turning her life around. She graduated high school early, kept her first job for 2 years, started but quit smoking cigarettes, had several great babysitting gigs going. The boyfriend she has doesnt come from a good home...and the parents are not good. She took it upon herself to "save him" from his family. She encouraged him to get his GED, helped him get a job and his license and wanted him to stop being influenced from his family...who all do drugs, drink, cant keep a job and have a lot of domestic violence. So things are going great until....she turns 18! Its like she lost her mind the day she turned 18. She quit her job of 2 years, got 2 tattoos, started smoking cigarettes again and we get in a fight and bam, she moves out...into her boyfriends one bedroom at his uncles house where EVERYONE lives.......I mean 8 people in a 3 bedroom house. She makes 9. A family that she tried to get her boyfriend away from for a year because she knew he deserved better. Now she is surrounded by pot and pills, lazy people who call in to work all the time and get fired from job after job and very poor living conditions. SHe now will have to work full time (as well as go to college) in order to pay all her bills. I am struggling with how to act with her and with what I should pay for....I want her to continue to go to the doctors when she is sick, go to her annual check-ups (which she has 2 coming up)....but she doesnt have the money for the co-pays. Do I pay for them? I have already stopped paying her cell phone and insurance. How do I act with my 18 year old who I feel is taking HUGE steps backwards after coming so far???