Regarding Surrogacy in NH-Does the surrogate have to have had a successful delivery if it's agreed upon both parties?

Kori - posted on 04/24/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Question regarding surrogacy in the state of NH...does anyone know if the surrogate mother HAS to have had a previous and successful delivery if both my husband and I are commonly going into agreement with the surrogate and she is with us?



Please help before we go too deep with this.



Thank you!

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Kori - posted on 05/02/2012

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Quite true, thanks so much for your help! This is all a big learning experience! :)

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/02/2012

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What a wonderful gift your friend is willing to give you. I don't know the answer though. You would need to contact a fertility clinic I suppose. I don't know why they would not let her, if she is healthy and willing. I am sure she will have to endure a gamete of test to insure she is capable herself.

Kori - posted on 05/02/2012

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Sorry, just jumping on the conversation now. Husband and I are unable to have children and we are discussing with a close friend of ours to carry our child. My uterus is bad, but not the eggs and my husband's sperm is fine, so if we can implant my eggs and his sperm, hopefully we'll have success. However our friend has not had a childbrith and I am unsure if "they" will allow her to carry our child. Thoughts?

Sarah - posted on 04/25/2012

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As I said, it is a wonderful act of love. No where did I say you were being selfish, I think it is wonderful that you would do that for them. I was just trying to understand why you would insist they be on birth control. I would think they would love both children if it were to happen. I am certainly not trying to tell you how you feel, that would be presumptuous of Me! Good luck with whatever you decide though.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/25/2012

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Sarah, it would be to protect ME! Who knows if after I am pregnant, and they conceive on their own if they will WANT they baby I am carrying? It would be for me. No I would not be resentful if they conceived, but don't do it on the time that I am giving up my body for you.

If I were to be a surrogate, those would be my terms. You don't like it, then I don't do it. Call it self preservation. And don't tell me how I would feel about giving the greatest gift that i can to someone. The only way I would resent it, is if they backed out and I was pregnant. Yeah, I do not want more children, but would give my body to let someone else have a baby. That is NOT resentment. That is pretty selfless, and if they could not be on birth control or would not accept my terms, I would not do it. Simple as that.

Sarah - posted on 04/25/2012

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No offense, but that doesn't make sense to me little miss. If you want to gift them with being their surrogate (which is a wonderful act of love) why would you be resentful or angry if they accidentally Conceived? It is quite common for couples who have struggled for years to become pregnant to get pregnant once they adopt or surrogate. Why is unknown, but it definitely does happen. I would think if it were me that I would be thrilled for them that they then get another baby to love. I don't think it would take away from your gift of carrying their child nor from the love they would have for both children. If you don't want to go through pregnancy again then don't because you'll just resent doing it in the long run.



As for the OP I don't know the answer to your question. Sorry I temporarally hijacked your post.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/25/2012

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Are you planning on being the surrogate or the one hiring one? Either way, there should really be a lawyer involved to clarify things such as this. Like for instance, I was thinking about being a surrogate for my BIL and SIL. But if I do it, I am going to insist they are on birth control just in case while I carry their child. I do not want to put my body through another pregnancy if they CAN get pregnant. That is just an example of a concern that may be a legal matter. Contact a lawyer.

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