Ciara - posted on 11/21/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
Let me give you background first. Ok so I am 26 and me and my husband has been together all my life pretty much. We hooked up in jr. high and were inseparable every since. We went to separate colleges and so we pretty much did the long distance thing and had it on lock. The distance only made us miss each other more and absence did make the heart grow fonder. We got married and moved into our first apt. the same year I graduated from college. Shortly afterwards we relocated due to him finding a great job and moved thousands of miles away from family and friends to I feel the middle of nowhere. I am now a stay at home wife. We've been married for 3 years now and now I have a beautiful 2 month old baby girl. During my pregnancy the first trimester I was diagnosed with hyper emesis and was sick as a dog. I was depressed and sick and not the nicest person to be around. It didn't help that he became very distant. Sex just wasn't on my radar and I feel that made us even more distant. Things got better during the second trimester I wasn't sick anymore but I was always lonely because he worked so many hours. The third trimester I basically was on bed rest. Again no sex even though I was the horniest I had ever been in my life. Once I had her by way of C-section and my family was around to help me when I needed it most ( through my mastitis, allergic reaction to the narcotics and C-section recovery all in the same delivery week) he was cold and distant toward me. This was crushing to me and was so far out of character for him. He told me that it was because my family just came in and was doing it all he just fell back and let them take the reigns. Now its just us and we are patching up our relationship through the stress of a newborn. (sleep deprivation, irritation, anger, loneliness) Things have improved a lot but its not the same. I miss how we use to be and want that back. We were each others best friends and now every time I try to get the magic back I have flashbacks of the coldness and distance and utter feeling that he didn't have my back when I needed him most. I'm at a lost of what to do. Any suggestions or ladies going through any of the same that I can relate to?