relationship with a divorced 65 year old white man,and um 35 years old.

Segametsi - posted on 02/03/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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"my boyfriend is divorced from a 27 years marriage, he wants to marry me but the wife keeps coming home wher we stay asking him to do a will, they have a 25 year old daugther whon is working. my boyfriend has got property but i dont have any intensions of taking his property becos he has a daughter. we do not have a child yet but we have planned to have one after we get married this year. always this woman when she comes home she quarrel to the ex-husband about him dating me, i dont know what she thinks becos he is old to live alone. the daughter on the other hand keeps tellin the father that she doesnt want any brother or sister and this is driving me crasy. Look at us now we are only two in a big house, no child at all ,life is not interesting. the ex-wife and daughter are fully in control of our relationshiop. even now she left her clothes full in the wardrobe she was using , she claims she comes home bcos she come to take the remaining clothes , bt she doesnt take anything .all she does when she comes is shouting at the ex-husband and making all bad comments about me but my boyfriend will all be quite trying to cool her down but she doesnt listen. I and my boyfriend loves each other and we really support each other no matter what. he hates it when this woman shouts. sometimes i think maybe he wants to go back to her bt if i ask him that he says NO! he explains that he just feel sympathy for the ex-wife, bt i trust what he says. Help me how to deal with this situation pleas.

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Segametsi - posted on 02/04/2014

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Thank you Michelle for respondin....absolutely NO! her name is not in the house at all ..its in his name.I think she thinks i might get the house. He paid her over a million pula for the sharing of the property.They divorced in the court last year November, and she pretended she really wanted divorce bt i can c now that it was just a pride but she didnt want divorce. I wish she could just go back to Phillipine and leave us alone. um a motswana and the boyfriend comes from Uk bt he is now a citizen of Botswana. This woman is 55 years old, i dont hate her at all nd i also feel pitty for her the problem is she likes shouting loads.

Michelle - posted on 02/04/2014

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He needs to move her things out if he's serious about moving on with you. He should pack it all up and let her know it's out the front for her to collect.
Is her name still on the house? If it isn't then he can refuse her entry since she doesn't live there or part own it. If her name is still on the house then he needs to pay her out her half and get her name off.
Also look at it from her perspective, you are 30 years younger than him, he has "traded" her in for a younger model, of course she's pissed.
How long have they been divorced/separated? It's hard to accept a break up after 27 years.

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