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Malebese - posted on 01/10/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I am married to a religeous man and i dont belive in his religion. It causes conflicts and differences in my family, his fsmily and between us. I dont know what to do.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/10/2016

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Baptism is about rebirth. If you don't believe in it, don't do it. If this is something that yo would eventually like to do, then keep going to church. Keep learning about the religion. See if it fits with your beliefs. If it doesn't, then it is your choice to walk away from it.

Michelle - posted on 01/10/2016

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If you don't believe in the religion then I suggest you don't get baptized into it. That's such a contradiction.
I think your husband and his family have to accept what you believe and not push you to convert. He obviously fell in love with you, not what you believed.

Jodi - posted on 01/10/2016

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I don't understand why you married if you knew of his religion and didn't agree with it. This was always going to be a conflict. There is little you can do about it now. I don't know what more to advise.

Michelle - posted on 01/10/2016

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Surely you knew this before you got married. Why get married if it was going to cause friction?
Well, he's not going to give up his religion for you and I guess you aren't going to become religious for him so you either find a happy medium or part ways. What is going to happen when yo have children? Are they going to be raised your way or his?

These are all the things that should have been discussed before marriage.

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Malebese - posted on 01/11/2016

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Except for this, My husband is everything I could ask for. That is why I thought this is just one thing to compromise for and it should be easy. I guess I was wrong, it will take me longer than I have anticipated.

Cristina - posted on 01/11/2016

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If you truly love your husband regardless of his beliefs, you would stick around. It is difficult and I've seen it first hand. Respect and love for each other is what matters no matter what religion you believe in.

Malebese - posted on 01/10/2016

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Thank you all for your response. I never discussed this with anyone except my husband and I really needded different views.
We were in a relationship for 12 years before we got married and we got married in his church about one and a half year back. We started discussing it during the wedding preparations. Because we have two kids, his wish is to see me babtized, but if it is really against my believes he is ok with me just going to church to avoid confusing the kids. I also wish it was that easy to convince myself just for the sake of uniformity , but the more i go to church and do more research, the more I learn more things that are against my believes. Even though is not easy, as Michelle said, im gonna have to find a happy medium.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/10/2016

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Were you able to get married in the church?

Religious conflict can be oh so very real in a family. My best advice, talk to your husband about it. Ask him why he needs you to change NOW? How long were you together for before marriage?? Also, you married him, not his family. This discussion is your matter with your husband. You don't need to talk with his family about it if you choose not to.

Malebese - posted on 01/10/2016

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I guess i did not do my homework.I thought is fine until im married and started going to church more often to prepare myself for babtism. I dont mind going to church, i just have difficulty getting baptized. And if you are not babtized is difficult to get in to church without being questioned and it does not mean much to our families.

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