Jade - posted on 03/20/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )
Recently strange behaviors from my daughter and complaints of her hurting "down there" started to concern me. I started having an uneasy gut feeling something was not right between her and my uncle when they began spending a lot of time together. He always wanted to be involved and do things with her and at first it was really helpful since i am a single mother and have little help with her. At first she always wanted to be around him and was always asking for him, then suddenly one day the behavior changed she wanted NOTHING to do with him, she would yell "NO! GO AWAY!" anytime he would even look at her. I know these are things a normal 2 year old would do but the uneasy feeling started coming back and lingered when i started to notice him all the sudden distancing himself from her. Then she began to complain that it was hurting her "down there" and would not let me change her or open her legs to wipe her it was literally a fight just to change her pullup ( she also started to refuse to use the potty which i know can also be normal but just doesnt sit well with me) so two days ago she kept telling me it hurt and i took her to the hospital initially when she told me she was hurting i thought it was just her saying something to not have to use the potty ( shes just learned what it hurts means and uses it for everything ex: she gets in trouble 'mom tummy hurt' to try to change the subject) but now her actions were alarming me. They diagnosed her with a UTI / bladder infection and going by my motherly instincts i told them about the suspicious/uneasy feeling i was having and they ran a exam on her and sent the test to a lab. Now i just dont know what to do any way this ends up is bad either my daughter has been sexually abused by a close relative or i have wrongly accused my close relative of something horrific. I couldnt live my life knowing something couldve happened to my baby and i did nothing about it.
Has anyone been through this or know what will happen next? One of my fears (besides the fact that she may have been abused) is nothing will come from the exam and i will never know what happened and my family will hate me but my daughters safety is more important. I assume cps will be here early tomorrow morning this is the last thing i ever wanted to happen and i am so lost, just hoping for some kind of advice or to know what to expect next...