Returning to work, feeling guilty for leaving my baby

Lacey - posted on 05/12/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I just go a new job and I have been a stay at home mom for a little over a year with my now 20 month old son. I have been crying and crying because I honestly don't want to work, I want to stay home with my son.



Now that I have been working for two days!!! My son to me seems to be distant, he wants his Daddy way more. Last night my husband had to hold him on the bed and I had to look in his mouth to see what was causing him pain and for the rest of the night he wouldn't let me touch him, he wouldn't give me kisses if I tried he would hit me, he wouldn't hug me... nothing. He was acting like he was afraid of me. I pretty much cried the entire night because I felt like he was acting this way because he feels like I left him since I am working.



I don't know what to do because I feel so horrible we had our own routine and everything and now he is in daycare and his daddy drops him off and picks him up. When he gets dropped off he freaks out and screams starts to shake and begs for his daddy. When he gets picked up and sees that it's Daddy he starts to cry and runs to him like he's thinking Thank god you finally came. When I got home from my first day yesterday he didn't want anything to do with me. I am scared that our relationship will never be the same and that he hates me.

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Michelle - posted on 05/12/2015

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Yes it's hard but if your family need you to work there's not much choice.
He will get used to it and will soon make friends and enjoy going to daycare. It's hard for a little one to adjust to such a big change all of a sudden. The good thing is, he is too young to remember this time in his life as he gets older so don't worry about him hating you.
When you have a day off make sure you spend time with him.

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