rewarding a child

Sharla - posted on 02/01/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )




How can I reward a child for a good report card, scoring a touchdown or playing an instrument well?


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Jodi - posted on 02/01/2015




In addition to what the others have said, I sometimes just say to the kids, you guys have been doing so great lately, lets go and see a movie (or something else). It is just random and I link it to how proud I am for their accomplishments in general.

Dove - posted on 02/01/2015




Doing good is its own reward. Let them know how proud you are of their effort and how proud they must be of themselves for doing well.

Now... there is nothing wrong w/ celebrating a BIG accomplishment (think... going out for ice cream, family game or movie night... etc...), but frequently 'rewarding' someone for doing what is expected (getting good grades, doing their best) can raise an entitled child who will end up only doing good for the material reward that they know they will get.

Typically 'I' will take my kids out for something special at the end of the school year... not as a 'reward', but as a 'hey we made it through another year' type of thing. :)

Michelle - posted on 02/01/2015




You tell them "well done". You don't have to give them material rewards every time they do something well or you will raise an entitled child and they will expect something every time they do something well.

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