Right hand vs left hand dominance?

Ariel - posted on 10/24/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My son Elias is seven years old and is naturally left handed. Through teachers advise, I made the decision to have him write with his right hand as I was told that he showed stronger writing skills with his right hand. three years later, he has never developed his left hand writing and has never totally mastered his right hand writing. My personal feeling now is my conflict with not knowing weather we should just keep him working on his right hand writing or his left. He eats with his left hand but shows no clear dominance on anything else. My fear is that he not develop clearly his sense of left or write (strength). His third grade teacher told me that what ever hand he writes with at the end of this grade will be the hand he will should continue with. I'm torn in not knowing what to do?

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Ariel - posted on 10/25/2013

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Thank you for your comments. Any thoughts on how I put him on the road to deciding his dominate hand on his own? As I've mentioned, he continues to use his right because its what he's known for three years; although he struggles with it. Do I begin to have him practice with his left hand while doing his school work with his right? Any thoughts would be welcome. Thank you.

Ev - posted on 10/24/2013

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I did not think that they made a child learn to use just their right hand to write with anymore. I know a hundred years ago or maybe a bit less, my grandmother started out as a left handed person and because she did not use her right hand in school, the teachers would smack her hands until she did use the right hand. THEY DO NOT DO THAT NO MORE. Nor do they make the child switch hands so that they use the right hand only to write. Why did you allow a teacher to influence the choice or make you think your son needed to change his hand writing from one to the other? That was not right. IF he was a natural left handed person to begin with then it should not have been messed with and not mattered at all, this is not over 100 years ago when they thought it did. My so is left handed and he was never forced to change hands in grade school. The only time he had to use his right hand to write and do homework was when he broke a thumb on his left hand....his dominant one. By switching like this, your poor child is not going to know which hand should be the dominate one and which one he does prefer to use. You need to let him figure out what is comfortable for him.

Ariel - posted on 10/24/2013

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Thank you so much for your reply. What I'm trying to "wrap my head around" is if he is writing with his right because I chose it three years ago. He says he prefers to write with his right hand but I suspect its because he's not written with his left for three years. However, he continues to have trouble writing well with his right hand. When asked to write with his left hand, he shows promise even though he's not written with it. So, its my feeling that he chooses his right hand by virtue of being familiar with the three years of writing. Hence, I'm conflicted with having him keep working on bettering his write hand writing or to have him begin practicing his left hand writing; and if so how.

Sarah - posted on 10/24/2013

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My question to you is what does totally mastered mean. Is he not able to write certain letters or numbers? I would personally let him decide which hand feels more comfortable for him to write with. As far as the teacher saying that what ever hand he writes with at the end of this grade is the one he should continue with to me depends on if he is having issues being able to write certain letter or numbers with left and right hand. If he does not have issues then he does not have to choose. There are people that can write with both hands and do just fine. As far as left or right.....most left handed writers are not true lefties across the board. Some will write left handed but do sports right handed and/or eat right handed. And then there are some that do everything left handed. I guess I would get more information as to what his issues might be. If it is just a pure preference then let him decide. If he is able to do both hands and that is what he wishes to do there is nothing wrong with it (again if it is a pure preference).

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