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Brenda - posted on 09/03/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My relationship with my boyfriend is unhealthy for my children. Im miserable and im sure my children will eventuslly be too. Though the issues that we fight about are usually small he tskes things to extremes by ssying hurtful things, over exaggerating things and constantly telling me to grt my 3year old and get the #### out. We have a 9 month old together that he says i can not take. What do i do?

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Sarah - posted on 09/04/2016

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If you have access to your bank accounts, take 50% and exactly that. Call a local women's crisis shelter for advice on how to leave. He may threaten many things, that does not mean he will follow thru with any of them. Crisis hotlines are 24 hours, so call tonight. Tuesday, get your hands on half of your money if you can and call a lawyer. There are many who will help abused women a low cost. He cannot decide to end your relationship with your child, nor can you end his...You will need to learn to co-parent together.

Brenda - posted on 09/04/2016

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Im gonna leave and i want to leave now. Im a stay at home mom no job and no other place to go. Fortunately thats all temporary. Im in the process of getting a job and then a place for us to go. The problem is, its gonna take time. See, hes already a few times threated me with kicking us out and not letting me take the baby. As stupid is this may sound, he does love our baby and is a good dad w this exception. Hes made it clear that he will go to lengths to keep me out of the babys life because he knows how bad that would break me down. What if he decides that he wants me out before i can provide stability for both my children. Ive over heard him discuss w family members behind my back about whos gonna watch the baby while he works. Im comletely terrified.

Sarah - posted on 09/04/2016

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I agree. file for temporary custody and leave. Before you do, make copies of all bank statements, taxes and legal documents. If you can't afford a lawyer, contact Legal Aide in your state or county. He may well get joint custody, but if he is not a danger to the child then that is his right. You don't want you kids to grow up and learn that this is how adults are supposed to treat each other, right?

Dove - posted on 09/04/2016

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Go file for temporary custody first thing Tuesday morning and get out of the relationship. You will have to co-parent the baby w/ him for the next 18ish years, but staying in a toxic relationship is not good for anyone.

Michelle - posted on 09/04/2016

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I would be leaving. You have said that the relationship is unhealthy for all of you so why stay?

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