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American - posted on 12/30/2015 ( 11 moms have responded )

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At what age were you when you experienced sexual behaviour and how old was the guy?

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/30/2015

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I agree! Adults who have parents that refuse to acknowledge their children need to be responsible (yes they are our "babies" but that does not absolve them of ADULT responsibility) have been done a disservice.

The law IS the law, and any adult, male or female, needs to be ready to own their actions, right or wrong. If a 19 YO has sex with a 16 YO, it doesn't matter if the 16 YO initiated it. That ADULT is supposed to be the responsible one.

I need to expand upon my previous answer as well... For me, the decision did not come lightly (pretty much identical to Mary Ann's story) and to this day I still regret that we gave in to societal pressure. Nothing came of it except a continuing expectation that sex was always a option. I didn't enjoy it until I met hubs, at which point I realized what it SHOULD be like.

MaryAnn - posted on 12/30/2015

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I was 15, he was 17.
We dont need to justify behaviours here.
It was consensual. I had talked with him about it beforehand for weeks. Id discussed aspects of that kind of thing beforehand with my mom and my best friend and my doctor. It was very safe, and i came out okay and unscathed- but it was still a bad decision. If it happened like that for my daughter or my son... I dont think I would be disappointed or mad, but I would definitely feel like they had spoiled a beautiful first experience for themselves.
... Yeah. Why is this a discussion?

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/30/2015

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I kind of figured so. What's the point here, AW?

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Jodi - posted on 12/30/2015

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Is this you trying to justify your son's behaviour?

Mine...I was 18, he was 19.

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MaryAnn - posted on 12/30/2015

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I'm leaving my post up. Early teen sexual exploration is a controversial topic, and I feel that my experience may be helpful for young people stumbling upon this question through google searches, and possibly moms who have a hard time understanding that this is a thing they will at some point need to address. However, I do not endorse breaking the law. Not going to go into the black/white/gray matters of this. The law is the law. If AW wants supportive discussion, she should instead post a thread asking moms how they deal with the uncomfortable feeling of stepping back and allowing their adult decisions to lead to adult consequences.

Jodi - posted on 12/30/2015

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MaryAnn, it's a discussion because her almost 19 year old son is having a relationship with a child almost 4 year his junior and is wondering why he is in jail and being treated so harshly.....and she's wanting to try and prove a point.

Dove - posted on 12/30/2015

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23... and he was 4 months away from being 23 as well.... but I was not his first.

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