Robin - posted on 07/18/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )
I have been married for over 21 years; we have two amazing sons-one in college and the other lives on his own. We have a nice home which is almost paid for, little debt, own our own business, take great vacations ect. The problem is we are roommates. We don't have a sex life; yes he wants sex but I can't stand the thought of having sex with someone who talks down to me, belittles what I do (unless he wants sex). He use to be so sweet and fun but he is all about our business and how no one would have anything if it wasn't for him. We work together and if he gets mad at me he will talk down at me, cutdown the work I do--worst of all, it doesn't matter who is standing near. I have been given up jobs I enjoyed in the past because he wanted me to be a stay at home mom, but then he played that job down. Our sons sees how he is and most of the time they don't want to be around him. It is so sad that we once worked together to build a nice home, strong family and now the only thing he wants to do is the come home eat dinner, complain about everyone, go downstair and fall asleep watching a movie, come to bed after I'm asleep and want sex. I get up early to fix him breakfast, and work at our business, come home a fix dinner, clean-up while he "unwind", do the washing, buy the grocery, pay the house bills, and I get nothing in returns --no flowers, no little love notes or texts. I feel that I do enough that I shouldn't have to also have sex with him because at this point it is not making love and it feels really cheap. I was never the girl who had sex if I didn't feel loved. I loved the man I once married I just don't think he exist anymore and the only thing he loves is his bragging rights on how great he is and the money he makes.