Deja - posted on 06/07/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )
Hi I'm a 21 year old med student studying away from home with my 6 mo baby girl. I met my child's father when i started schoo, in 2012 and we had a bro/sis relationship until a year later he decided to "tell me how he really felt about me" . he poured his heart out so much that i caved and i decided that considering the relationship we had, the risk was worth taking.
This boy knows everything i went through including the suicide of my ex boy friend which was the reason i chose to remain single and off the market for so long. It has been Almost two years since his revelation and a baby later, he has turned out to be the most deceitful, manipulative person i ever met. When i got pregnant he did and said all he can do to get me to have an abortion even tried to belittle me on social media.. it turns out he had me down as a "side chick". he fooled me and all our friends.
By now you're guessiing that i had a very hard pregnncy... it turn out he ended up with an ex gf who probably was around the whole time and at least 10 other girls. he didnt even want our child to come back to his country because he knows he would feel obligated to partake in her life. His mom sends like 100 us a month and all he ever talked about is taking our daughter out of my hands to where ever he is and her meeting his girlfriend. He never helps with anything. He started coming to see her but theres a lot to do and he's just not making any sense especially coming to my home and throwing jabs at me, telling her " i should have chosen another mother for you" and "you're away from the ugly people back home(my family)" .
On his last visit, we finally confronted some past but very present issues because all he's talking about is her meeting the girl. I said to him that on many occasions you assured me that its a relationship we're woking on and i was willing to walk away so many times so why get upset that a baby was on the way and he said in front my daughter that he wanted the sex and if he told the truth it would have stopped, without a sign of remorse on his face... my daughter started to get fussy in his hands and she didnt want to stay with him after our conversation... and i was upset the whole night so i feel like that's a sign to not have him around.
I am my parents only child and i know nothing about all the extended n step parenting thing and i do not want that for my daughter... I would love for her to have a healthy relationship with her dad but i feel like he isn't suitable to be the father Mel deserves. Should i cut him off for a while? Him and my exams and single parenting doing everything is just no working well.... i am fine doing it alll by myself without the drama