ryan is 2 and he has started biting people. how can i stop him? please help.
Sarah - posted on 02/05/2009
My son Bradley went through the same thing recently, he's now 2 and a half. I found that if he bit me or anyone i would put him in a time out, usually on my bed and make sure the tv in my room was unplugged, i wouldnt close the door or anything but he used to start crying when i said the words time out and then i told him when he was ready to stop biting and behave he could come out. after a few times it worked like a charm, he no longer bites and always knows that if i tell him to stop something hes doing and he doesnt it means a timeout. he may be young but he now realizes that timeouts are for when he does something wrong and usually comes out saying hes sorry. Hope this helps you
Marissa - posted on 02/05/2009
BIting a child who bites is like telling them do as I say not as I do. They don't understand and espically at this age. It is a horrible thing to tell people to bite! Could he be upset about something and not have the words to say it? When one of my younger three bit that was typically why. I have also found that my younger son, who has motor delays, bites to have the tactile response that he needs.
Candice - posted on 02/05/2009
I work in a child care center and have had to deal with this problem ALOT we wiil give them their binki so that when they feel like they need to bite their mouth is full. You can also try giving him a rag or something else to bit and saying to him that when you feel that you want to bite to bite the rag or what evre yougive him you also want to give the other person alot of attention and say look what you did you hurt my friend and show them what they did it might take a few time but they do understand. I hopr that one of those will help you.
Marie - posted on 02/05/2009
I had a friend who would flick them on the cheek, but the thing is that you have to be firm about it and consistent or it won't work. In the same way as your first comment, it's not beating your child and it isn't abuse either....just something to get there attention.
Traci - posted on 02/05/2009
I know that it sounds horrible but you should bite them back. It has worked on both of my children and I was a nanny for 15 years and had the parents of those children do the same thing. I don't think that even at two years old a child understands that you are in pain when you say "Ouch" don't do that. They need to experience it for themselves. When my daughter would bite me I would bite her back and explain to her that it hurt where she bit me and that it hurt my feelings that she wanted to hurt me. Then ask her if her feelings were hurt that I bit her. It took about three times and she got it. My girlfriends little boy was a little more extreme and she would do time outs and would give him a stamp or sticker every couple of hours for not bitting and behaving well. If he went three days without bitting then he would get a small surprise. It took her about two weeks. I hope that some of this might help you. Good Luck!
Angela - posted on 02/05/2009
I am a believer that if you tell them "NO" and they do not listen (at 2 they should know that word) then a tap on the mouth after he bites along with telling him "NO" at the same time has more response. Do not get me wrong. I am not suggesting that you beat your child, but a tap on the mouth does not hurt, but it does show that you mean what you say.
Hope this helps.
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