Saddness for my daughter not having a father. :(

Sarah B - posted on 07/07/2016 ( 2 moms have responded )




I was a single women growing up in Chicago for four years. I have been searching for my daughters father for 2 years now. With no luck. I'm heartbroken that we will never find her father and I feel terrible. I feel like a horrible person and I feel like it's going to be hard to date anyone new without being judged. Anyone been through the same thing?


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Jodi - posted on 07/08/2016




Cassidy, that's a really cynical and generalised view that actually isn't true in most cases. There are plenty of men out there who do the right thing and have positive relationships with their children even if they are no longer with their ex. I feel sorry for you that your view is so down on men in general.

Sarah, does the father know about the child? Ultimately, if he doesn't want to be found, you won't find him. Don't feel bad that he's not in her life - you can't control his choices, only your own. If you have made the effort, then you have done all you can. You won't be judged for dating someone new - you deserve to be happy, you deserve to have a good partner in your life. Eventually, you will find someone who can be a good role model to your daughter, and if you don't, no harm done. Make sure your daughter feels loved, grows up with a good self esteem, and set your standards high on who you let into your lives. But the right person, who cares about you, will not judge you. If they do, then that's their loss.

Cassidy - posted on 07/08/2016




Don't worry men, even when you like them and they stick around never do anything right. My daughters father came back after 5 of 6 years being absent, he's caused me nothing but problems since he's returned, he's demanding and aggressive. A man who walks out on your little girl?? Your daughter deserves better, and so do you

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