Sadness

Meria - posted on 07/08/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am separated for two months and i am depressed the situation why my army husband force me to go back my country which i still married to him. And i am waiting for the process for divorce. And he still messaging me to send me back. Do i still can talk to his commander? Or if i talk to his NCO, is it jeopardize him cuz one time i reported him for what he did on me and he says i jeopardized him. Please any advice.

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Meria - posted on 07/08/2016

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NC but he always msg me that can hurts my feeling. I tried to be civilize to him but he send bad message that why dont you stay here" we're done" i mean i know we're done but why wld he force to go back to korea. I mean i dnt get it.

Michelle - posted on 07/08/2016

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If you have a green card then that gives you the right to stay doesn't it?
I'm not in America so I'm not sure about the conditions of the green cards.
What will going to his NCO achieve? Will it reverse what has happened?
If you really want him to pay for the abuse then file charges with the police. Have evidence and also get a restraining order. I wouldn't bother with him commander, it probably won't get you anywhere, it will just be he said, she said and they will probably believe him first.
What country are you from?

Meria - posted on 07/08/2016

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I got my green card 3 months ago. Since the restrainining order dismissed on the court last month becuae he lied about what he did on me, he abuses me both Physically, mentally and emptionally. All of hes lies i didn't report him on his commander because i have fear to lose his job. But when i found that he already told his commander that hes telling bad about me. .. So i feel that i dnt have hope to talk to hes commander anymore but now i am ready to meet hes nco if i have the chance. I have dAughters and i dnt wanna leave the country because im waiting the divorce but my husband forcing me to go nack my country. Bcause he wants the BAH and never share me.

Michelle - posted on 07/08/2016

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If you are only in the country through your marriage and you have now separated then you will have to go back to your home country. You could check with immigration to see if you can get a temporary visa and then apply to stay but if your husband is contacted and says you are separated then they don't have to let you stay.
What do you hope to achieve by talking to his commander?
What do you expect him to do?
If your husband wants to end the marriage then it's your husband you need to talk to, his commander can't make him stay with you.

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