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Jasmine - posted on 04/13/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I found out at 20 weeks that Im pregnant. I was in disbelief. up until a month ago I was living my life normally and didn't suspect I was pregnant because I was Also getting my period. Im tor. I was considering abortion when I thought I was only 7 to 8 weeks but now last week since confirmed Im so far along I feel like Im forced to keep my child. Im happy but sad at the same time cuz noe my life I'd going to change drastic with a secinside child. Tomorrow is my scheduled appt for my 3 day procedure (abortion) and I don't think I can go through with this. I've been watching disturbing videos on YouTube and I font Tthink I can murder my child.at the same time Im scared to be a mother again. My son is already 10 Yes so it's easier for me. Having to adjust to another child waking g up all hours being extremely tired, needing to have energy for my son as well is going to be tough and I don't know if I, an handle this right bow. This pregnancy was unexpected. If anyone can please help me and give me advice I can really use it. Im stressed and so scared right now. My mom supports me and so does the people I told so far in my family but all I hear is it's my personal decision and there behind me. I just don't k ow what to do.I want my child and then I don't.Lord have mercy. Please help!!!!

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Raye - posted on 04/13/2015

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I was going to say that, if you are struggling at all with the idea of abortion, then don't do it. You would probably have regrets. I had an abortion when I was younger, and I don't regret it. It was absolutely the best decision for me and I never had any doubt at all that it was the correct choice. You should follow what's in your heart, and if your heart is telling you to keep the baby, then that's what you should do.

Sarah - posted on 04/13/2015

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I can understand that.....but then look at what you are saying. You are leaving the option of abortion open ( I know you are struggling with that idea) but you do not feel you can do adoption. Abortion is terminating the child. You are not allowing the child to live or have a life, but adoption is allowing the child to have a life. I think there is a reason why you are struggling with abortion. It is a first reaction that many people have when it is an unexpected pregnancy. But just because the child is no longer here does not mean you don't live with that choice for the rest of your life....as I think you are starting to look at. We all have reactions to unexpected situations. That is when it is wise to take a step back and to allow yourself time to sort things out. If you are feeling that you would most likely parent then look at what help would be possible for you.

Just a side note. My second and third child are 10 years apart. I have loved watching my third grow. I have the help of my 10 year old and as my little one has grown I have really taken a step back and watched her grow. You realize how fast they really do grow. There are adjustments you do have to make, but life is also an adjustment. As your 10 yr. old gets older you are also making adjustments in your life for him/her. Just life has adjustments. It snows one morning and you have to adjust that into your schedule. I know this is different then adjusting to another child and a newborn, but my point is is that you are already adjusting to things around you and making it work.

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Jasmine - posted on 04/13/2015

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Thank you soooooo much Sarah..I thank God he has brought u to respond to me. Thank you for making my decision easier in deciding to keep my baby. Your right about everything you said I guess I just needed to hear it from another women's perspective and the fact that you have the support from your second child who's the same age as my son is a big coincidence. I know my son is already excited t III be a big brother so thusbjust clarifies everything. Again thank you sooo much And may God continue to bless you and your family. I know I'll be OK. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜€

Jasmine - posted on 04/13/2015

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Also to add IT's not that I don't believe in adoption I just don't think I can carry my unborn child for nine months and give it away. I'd rather be a mom and raise it. If Im strong enough to carry and go through with my pregnancy then Im strong enough to raise and take care of my child. So given my current situation, adoption is not an option.

Sarah - posted on 04/13/2015

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You may want to look into adoption. This way if you feel you are unable to raise your child at the moment (not that you would not do a good job.....just you feel like it would not be the best) you child is able to live. You can also decide it you would like to have contact with your child as he/she grows. My suggestion is to let things settle a bit. You are still adjusting to the situation. Take a step back and allow yourself to adjust. Make a pros/cons list for both you and baby for each choice you are considering. This helps TONS. right now all that is going around in your head and it is hard to sort it all out. It helps having it on paper.

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