scared about birth and labour

Hema - posted on 11/23/2013 ( 19 moms have responded )

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Hi I m 8th month pregnent and very scared about birth and labour its my first baby I dont know how to be prepare plz help me

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Janvi - posted on 11/23/2013

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you don't need to worried about anything just go with d flow..just packed u r hospital beg so when u have to go to hospital u don't get stressed out.:)

Janine - posted on 11/26/2013

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I recently gave birth to my little boy 5 months ago and was very open minded from the start, I tried not to worry myself about labour and birth seeing it was first time experiencing it, if I worried at any point I always imagined that first cuddle which always seemed to relax me. I told myself I wasn't making a decision on which drugs I was going to take, I would just take each step at a time. Luckily I didn't realise I was in labour until my waters actually broke and I still remained calm and with gas and air and 3 hours later delivered my gorgeous Son, I loved every minute of his birth, such a beautiful experience and I definately think it helped being open minded and not panicking. I wish you well.

Danicia - posted on 11/24/2013

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I recommend educating yourself about the stages of labor and delivery and the potential outcomes/possibilities you may encounter. after you educate yourself, start imagining your "ideal" labor/delivery. have a mental plan but know it's subject to change. try not to freak out and be ready to go with the flow. once it starts I think you'll be pretty focused on what's going on to not really worry about much (or at least that's how it was for me). however it happens, it will be a memorable day you will always pair with meeting your child for the first time. good luck!

[momoftwo] - posted on 11/23/2013

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Okay trust me when I say I have major anxiety issues especially when it comes to that and I have absolutely NO pain tolerance what so ever and I had 2 kids lol. You will be okay because in the end the second you see your baby you will forget all about it. Just remember to breathe so you and baby are getting oxygen when having contractions.
And if you were planning on getting an epidural I would say it's a smart choice because it sure as heck helped me!

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Jess - posted on 11/28/2013

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To be honest for most women its such a blurr that's why people have more they forget mine wss 5 months ago and I can hardly remember stay calm no matter how much you read up on labor I read loads! When your in labor youll just get through it.

Tricia - posted on 11/27/2013

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PRAY !!! That is the one thing that got me through my labor. I prayed and walked and the one prayer that got me thought was "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" say that and believe he will help you and you will make it through. I didn't get amoxicillin. I went all natural. NO PAIN MEDICATIONS !!!!

Lyla - posted on 11/26/2013

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Wow thats amazing i totally agree giving birth at home is the most peaceful and relaxing place for you and especially for your newborn to be born with the comfort of mamma ONLY! not with bright lights and strange docs and nurses fliping the baby around so carelessly! i remember my daughter crying and shaking from fear it is traumatizing for these newborns. If i had another baby i would definately do a home birth.

Ambur - posted on 11/26/2013

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I had a home birth for my son. My midwife was terrible, but my labor was awesome. I decided to go without pain meds since I don't like being hooked up to stuff. Also, I wanted to do labor. I wanted to be active and fully involved in it. I decided on a home birth for me, since I do not like the rate of c sections in low risk women at hospitals compared to the transfer rate of low risk women at home. I read everything under the sun.

I suppose that what helped the most was telling myself that it wasn't pain, that it was really hard work. Thats what it became for me.

I honestly can't wait till I can experience labor and childbirth again. Hopefully with a better attendant.

I liked how I felt so close to my husband as he helped me move through the contractions.

Now, home birth or no pain meds during birth isn't for everyone. The point is to do what is most comfortable/least scary for you. Being at home is a lot less scary to me than going into a hospital. I hate hospitals. They stress me out very bad, and I felt that the stress would have the potential to stall my labor. But for someone else, entering the hospital might be just the thing so they can finally relax (as much as you can during labor) and just let go.


Instead of worrying, just spend your time doing stretches and getting excited. Even if labor doesn't go according to your birth plan, it can still be an epic awesome experience.

Lyla - posted on 11/25/2013

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get a midwife i regret not having one the nurses just pressure you to get an epidural but dont do it! they can give you something for the pain. Giving birth is natural u want to feel not be numb!

Krystle - posted on 11/25/2013

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I would def say educate yourself. Especially on different pain management techniques. I didn't and learned a lot after having my child that I wished I knew before. The nurses didn't help with that part at all. I was petrified but it will pass trust me. Once u see that baby the rest is history. Congrats!!!!

LalaBoom - posted on 11/25/2013

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I'm MONTHS(!) away from this and was panicky before I even thought pregnancy was a good idea lol

I didn't want to make a rash decision about kids/pregnancy so I've been waiting for a while.... As a stepmom this is the first I'll have to push out without BM's help LOLOLOLOLOL

I'm so nervous sometimes I near give myself an anxiety attack..... I use the same breathing techniques I use for my anxiety........

Try to educate yourself on the ins/out of labor and delivery. This will help you feel more in control of the situation. Of course you're only doing this to mind-fck yourself because when the time comes, I doubt anyone can be "in control," lol..

Good luck sweety! Congrats on your impending birth :))

Hema - posted on 11/25/2013

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Thanku all for supporting me thanx alott and hey plzzz pray for me and my little one and the day when I take my baby in my arms I will let u know tnx frnds lol

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I took lamaze class and during class I would get so anxious and leave. I couldn't enjoy being pregnant because of all the negative things I put in my mind. Then it hit me, my mother had 10 pregnancies and we were all born at home and one of my sisters was a breech baby. All born with the help of a mid wife and no pain medicine. It is a natural thing. Regardless of many complications, people give birth everywhere and anywhere and here I am stressing out although I have the best medical staff and all. Like they adviced you have the knowledge of birth stages and all and be prepared for the hospital. The best advice I received from my sister-in-law was epidural. Whether you decide for pain medicine or not listen to the nurse or whoever is helping you. Breathing right and following the right direction could make a whole lot difference. I had two others without an epidural but I don't regret at all having it with my first. Best luck for you and your baby. Don't worry if you are a believer know that God's in control.

Jennifer - posted on 11/24/2013

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Many people stress over Labor and birth, while it is a monumental day on your life, the day you become MOM! It is only a day, plenty of people will be there who are very experienced to assist you. Just relax do, let me help you. Talk to them a head of time, visit where you will be birthing to familiarize yourself. Many will tell you to do certain things to physically or mentally prepare, if you come across something that sounds good, go ahead if not, no big deal everyone does something different including nothing and we have all become mothers. Every birth is different whether #1 or 8 for a mom. Just do what feels good that day.

Gena - posted on 11/24/2013

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I think lots of moms are scared or worried with the first child,i was scared that i wouldnt know how to push right and get my baby out,since its not something you do everyday or can practise lol.. But believe me,it will all be ok,the midwives and doctors help you and tell you how and what to do. I also got my son out:-) make sure you have your bag packed and take something with that could comfert you..for example we were aloud to take a cd with to listen to our music. I was happy to listen to motorhead while i was in labor,the midwives were ok with it they said its a nice change instead of always listening to celine dion:-) Good luck and i wish you a good birth ps. My friend just had her first and after labor started in 1hour her son was already born..so maybe you are also lucky and it will all go fast

[momoftwo] - posted on 11/24/2013

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You and your baby will both be okay, what you're feelings are is normal. I think that's every mother's worry.

Leela - posted on 11/23/2013

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Breathe. It's a very natural process. I was scared as well but the doctor/nurses guide you through everything. You should focus now on getting your things and baby's packed. The hospital usually gives you a list. Meditate, pray and breathe so when the time comes your fear doesn't take over.

Hema - posted on 11/23/2013

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Hi I know it happen to everyone and for our baby we have to do this I hd wateid 5 years for this baby bcoz of some complication I had problems for conceive but now days when I actualy get that what I want I hv scared to think about what will hapen to me in labour room is me and my baby both will be okay .....

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