Scared child

Lsnader008 - posted on 03/19/2012 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My daughter went to the doctor today and was ok when we first walked into the waiting room then as soon as the nurse came to get us she started crying and throwing a fit she didn't wanna get her weight checked,height nothing we even tried stickers,books,etc. She screamed like she was dying almost the whole time if she was getting looked at she was screaming. How do I get her to stop from crying we had to hold her down (which I hate to do) to get her ears looked at even her heart checked. How do I get her to stop from throwing a fit she just turned 3 March 3rd is it something with a 3 year old or is it me.....My husband can't go with usually since he has to work. She has to get a physical for school so thats why she went to the doctor and also for a shot they didn't give her a shot or even get the physical done so now we have to go back and pay more money is there something I'm doing wrong or is it just the age or the fear of the doctor?! PLEASE HELP I'M GOING TO LOSE IT!

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Kristy - posted on 03/19/2012

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Also bribery, if you are good then we can have ice cream after or something that she really likes doing that is a treat. My daughter loves lolli pops so if she is good then she gets one.

Kristy - posted on 03/19/2012

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My daughter did this. I read her a book about the doctors and when i had to go i told her she could come to and see what they did to me or if not i would tell her all about the doctor when i got home. I also found a female doctor and asked her if she would like to see a lady instead of a man. It took a few visits but now she will go to the doctor and not scream. If it is a lady then she co operates if it is a man then she doesnt get upset but sometimes wont talk or be very co operative. I think it is an age thing, unfamiliar situations and places and the fear of them touching her, doing odd things like putting a thermometer in her ear and wanting to listen to her heartbeat. Good luck.

Sarah - posted on 03/19/2012

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It could be a fear of unfamiliar situations. Perhaps get a book about going to the doctor (the library or almost any book store will have one). Read through it with her several times. Get a play doctor set and pretend play what will be done (look in her ears, her mouth, listen to her chest). Talk to her about the doctor, what to expect, what she will see. Reassure her that they aren't going to harm her. You can also ask the doctor to show her what he is going to do to her (for example listen to her chest) on YOU first. Then she can see how you react (calmly) and hopefully she'll realize it's not too bad.



Now, as far as the shot, don't lie that it won't hurt because it will. You can ask the doctor if you can get some Emla or Ametop cream to put on it before. You can buy this over the counter at the pharmacy. Put it on, don't rub it in and cover it with a bandage about 1/2 hour before her shot. (You could even ask the pharmacist to show you where to put the cream). Explain to her that she needs to have it to start school, that the "magic cream" will help so it doesn't hurt too bad.



Tell her before you go that if she's a good girl that you will go for a hot chocolate, ice cream, swimming, buy a toy, whatever - some kind of a reward you don't do often that she can look forward to. Even if she acts up a bit, do her treat afterwards. She'll start to associate the doctor with rewards and will hopefully lose her anxiety and fear about it.



Good luck!

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