Scared for my daughter!

Natalie - posted on 07/13/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I adopted my husbands children. My daughter is 7 years old now. Her father has told me she started holding in her poop around the age of 2. I came into her life when she was 5. I have taken her to the doctor several times for this issue and she is given miralax twice a day. She still continues to hold it. When she does poop, she plays with it. i have found it on her clothes and walls. She put her hand in the toilet and plays with it. She put poop on her earring in her ear and it got infected and has also put in her mouth and got a severe infection. She is a very smart girl, she has good grades and enjoys learning. I have had problems with her stealing from girls at school and from us, and lying. i can't tell the difference anymore. I am also concerned with how she treats her brother and sister sometimes, i dont knoiw if it normal sibling stuff. Her and her brother hoard food and have the biggest melt downs if they dont get what they want. My husband thinks it is normal kid stuff.... as a mom...Im concerned and scared. Help!

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Stephanie - posted on 07/14/2013

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Wow..I have no idea what to say but have you had her tested for ADHD? My fiancés brother has it and he has similar issues to what you've been explaining..especially the eating! I don't know what to say about her holding her poop, I haven't heard of it..you cant spend every minute of every day watching her with these things, but definatley go on your own mind and take them to see someone..they both need It as soon as possible..your husband may be in denial where they are his kids..of course no one wants to believe anything could be wrong with their babies but it's worth a shot and would make a better family for all of you.

Natalie - posted on 07/14/2013

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I want to take to see someone and her brother too. My husband doesn't want me to. He thinks there is nothing wrong. I need to just do it anyways, despite his feelings. The fits they throw, last for hours. Kicking and screaming. The is no reasoning with them, when the get like that. We have talks afterwards but it can happen again 5 mins later. I have tried as consequences, chores, taking toys away, no tv and computer. Nothing effects them. I think that the lies and steal steam from her biological mother.She has lied and stolen from everyone in her family and my daughter is aware of all of this. I have had her talk to her teacher and a school counselor and they think it is and issue with her not being able to control herself from taking stuff. The doctor told me to give her the miralax for 6 months and she should be better. I have gone back and back because it has been almost 2 years. She doesn't hold it in for weeks upon weeks any more because i have to make her sit on the toilet twice a day, but she still tries to hold it and play with it. He said that her intestines are so stretched out that it will take a long time for them to go back to normal. I have tried little games for her to play with, music magazines. I completely changed her diet and she still sneaks what ever she can. we go any where to family or friends house and she will eat more than a grown man. Then i look like a bad person because i tell her to stop eating. I have many heart to hearts with her about the choices we make in life can effect not only yourself but others. The difference between right and wrong. I have even had her write me out Q and A's of everything to help her see the difference of the choice she is making. It goes in one ear and out the other. She doesn't seem to care. I'm out of ideas i can do at home and completely overwhelmed.

Stephanie - posted on 07/13/2013

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That seems like a very unusal situation! Not getting what they want is a simple young thing..but the poop thing I'm real unsure of. You should probably take her to see someone as I ain't so sure this is normal. A lot of children I know does steal and lie today it all depends on the group she hangs out with and what she sees at home..she could have problems at 7 that you wouldn't think of. It's crazy I know, and sounds scary. What has the doctor said to you about this issue? And what are the things you have tried doing to help? Maybe try and sit down and talk to her about what she is doing wrong.

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