Susan - posted on 08/07/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
I was a very good mom made sure son had a car (dad didnt want him to and i made it happen) hobbies and things for him spent money time taught him well sole disciplinarian while married. Divorced his dad after twenty years. He didn't show love or support me. Son recently said he saw why dad shut me out. Son 19 chose illegal and disrespect in my home. I gave some consequences. He said he wanted to live with dad and permanently. I confirmed and moved his things the next day. He wanted his things to stay and said I threw him out. I told him to call come by anytime . I'll be here. He said he'd meet for breakfast never showed. Now he won't return calls texts. He said I deserve it because I wanted him to be respectful and begin to pay some things on his own. He let me know he doesn't want anything from me just a meal at Christmas. He accused me of being controlling not teaching him a good work ethic and hanging things I pay for over his head. I'm hurt don't know how long he won't want to talk or get together for a meal. I'm sad and think I was a great mom. I'm a teacher. The affective side of people is my life. I have no idea where I went wrong. I would have loved to have a mom like me. I was always the first one to help in any crisis. He said I make him more mad than anyone else. I do tease and joke and make things fun. Please tell me the right thing to do to help him want me to continue being a part even small part of his life.