scared mom of 3

Ruthie - posted on 07/26/2012 ( 1 mom has responded )

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i am a mother of three and im crying while writing this because i feel like im the one ruining my family...im strict but im stressed...my kids are very good and i love them but they are having a hard time helping around the house and everday daily chores...and then comes the anger and the direspect my kids have for eachother and adults...i do not hit my children but i can realize that when yelling doesnt work because im not in control they slip through my fingers....being the bully is one of my issues and always when mom is not looking ....i feel like im losing control of my house and myself...if i cant control me and keep the house in order and teach my children daily routine i will lose my sanity...but all in all it really hurts me to yell cuz it hurts my kids...not that i threaten buti see it in there eyes, theyre very sensitive but they need to understand that working together and positiveness amongst them works well..i dont c why our family is like this because im not...do i work too much even tho its from home am i not fit to be a mom...it hurts my heart and im scared and cannot give up...please i need advice

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Ruthie - posted on 07/26/2012

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i want to add that i read and wrote down the 7 steps to helping with control for kids, and i actuall have been doing the total oppisate of that, i do yell alot and nw i realize that my yelling just makes them hurt and put up a brick wall and they stop listening and maybe thats why there doing the same thing as me...so if i stop yelling and teach them instead of screaming it because im frustrated maybe that will rub off onto them and it will be easier to show them how to work well for eachother...and because i am so strick...and i yell when something isnt done my way or the right way ,that isnt teaching them anything....i am going to train myself that i need to slow down and realize that nothings perfect and if maybe i work with them and slow the process down and do one thing at a time it will stick even if i have to repeat repeat repeat....and show myself and them that nothings perfect as long as we try together....it will still be ok...because i dont want my kids thinking that nothing they do is right therefore they are willing to screw everything up that they do....thats not right...and i would like to add thank you so much for this sight,and kids ae not bad sometimes the parents need a lesson or two as well....and i will let you all knw how it begins as i go along....i feel better even though i never talked to anybody...sometimes words of wisdom and reassurance is comforting because im not the only one in the world with stress.....besides this is worth it, i love my children, and i would love to learn with my kids if it brings happier times and alot more smiles....so ty from the bottom of my heart...ruthie georgiou

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