Scared myself with my own frustration

Lynzee - posted on 06/29/2016 ( 27 moms have responded )

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So my daughter is 10 months old and she hasn't slept through the night since she turned 6 months s. She used to sleep so well. I have tried everything I can think of possible to get her to sleep all night. The last month has been the worst!! She will wake up every half hour until I give up and get frustrated and put her bed with me and my husband. So tonight I tried making her sleep in her own bed and she slept there for two hours but I've been so exhausted that I got really frustrated tonight and accidently slammed my daughters head down on the bed a little harder than I meant to. I feel so horrible about it that I thought I caused her damage....I made her stay up to make sure she was alright. She's completely fine but me on the other hand I feel like the worst mom ever.. Hope no one thinks I'm a bad mom for this

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Lynzee - posted on 07/05/2016

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Update on baby girl and mama: so we took a look at her bed and we were able to lower the bed so no more worrying she will fall out!!! She has slept more in the past few days than she has in weeks which on turn gave mama some much needed sleep!!! I'm still trying to get back in the swing of sleeping more at night... My body is used to being up!!! We think we figured out why she was having so much trouble at night....my husband and I took a look at her mouth and come to find out she was having two teeth come in at the same time!!! That's enough to drive anyone crazy !! She went to see a dentist when she was 9 months and they said she would be popping teeth through the top of the mouth but intead she popped two more down at the bottom so now she will have 4 at the bottom should I be concerned?

Sarah - posted on 06/29/2016

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Two things jump out at me from your post. First, you describe her as wired at bedtime and this is the number one sign of an overtired kiddo. Be aware of her daytime sleep and resist skipping a nap in an effort to help her sleep. I promise that a well rested baby will sleep longer and better than an overtired baby. At 10 months she may find waking up swaddled frustrating as she is in a huge phase of exploration and may want her hands free.
The other point is alternating Tylenol and Motrin; this used to be the prescribed method but in the last two years, doctors have said pick one or the other and both are too much for the little systems.
Am I understanding correctly that you are room sharing? Is that permanent? To reassure you, at 10 months she is not manipulating you or scheme to get into your bed (that sounds weird) rather she has entered her time of separation anxiety, she knows you are around and she wants you with her. You are her world and your sounds, smell and comfort are her top desires.

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Lynzee - posted on 07/01/2016

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I'd have to look it only happened once we are planning on getting a different crib.

Sarah - posted on 07/01/2016

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Dove is right, is the bar is low enough for her to climb at 10 months (which even a good walker should not be able to get over the crib rail) then she need to get moved to a toddler bed. Are you sure your mattress is at the lowest level and your crib meets the AAP guidelines?

Dove - posted on 06/30/2016

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If she can fall out of her crib it is not a safe place for her to sleep.

Lynzee - posted on 06/30/2016

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She has fell out of her crib before due to pulling her self up on the one bar up top and yes she is can crawl, cruise and she stands a lot and tries to walk a little

Dove - posted on 06/30/2016

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If it makes you feel any better... all 3 of my kids started to be 'hell' at night around 9 months. ;)

Sarah - posted on 06/30/2016

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At 10 months she should not be able to climb out unless she is a skilled climber already. the mattress of the crib should be in the lowest position and there should not be a crib bumper or any stiffed animals for her to climb on to climb out. You likely have some time before she climbs out. If she could, she'd probably try it now in order to get over to you. where is she with her locomotion skills, can she crawl, pull up, cruise, and has she ever climbed out before?

Lynzee - posted on 06/30/2016

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No I don't believe the room sharing will be permanent...I don't think it would be safe to have her in a separate room till she can sleep in a toddler bed, I'm afraid she might fall out of her crib due to climbing...she's about at that stage am I correct? I was told to alternate them because it helps with not getting to used to one and it becoming to not work and be affective!! I'm a new mommy so I do and will make mistakes lol. I understand about the whole not scheming thing I just thought it kind of made sense considering that she sorta knew I would eventually come to our bed. My husband and I have tried putting a shirt that my husband had wore for that day in the crib with her so she would have something that smelled like him and maybe that would comfort her? I don't think it worked.

Lynzee - posted on 06/29/2016

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See the thing about this is she's never had a problem sleeping in her crib at all !! She was sleeping through the night from the time she was about a month old till she turned 6 months old....then she would only wake up once or twice a night.... The whole wanting to sleep in our bed only started happening about a week ago when she figured out I would get too tired to want to keep fighting her sleep and give in....she's figured out how to push mamas buttons so to speak lol. I don't think security is the problem or I could be wrong too lol

Sofia - posted on 06/29/2016

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No darling!!!! This teaches her comfort!!! Comfort! And security. She will grow to be confident because she's had your support. Don't make it hard on you or her. You getting frustrated and a touch aggressive isn't doing anybody any good. You are a good Mom. Get a cot---whatever and sleep on the floor knowing you are doing the right thing. Please don't make yourself suffer! Please try it for a week before making up your mind. Xoxoxoxo

Lynzee - posted on 06/29/2016

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I could try that but then there again that teaches her she can sleep with mommy and I don't want her to get in the habbit of it. I want to teach her its alright to sleep in her own bed..I know this all sounds crazy!!!

Sofia - posted on 06/29/2016

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Poor you! Arggg. This is a crazy recipe! OK- can you get a mattress on the floor in your room for you and baby? Or a small bed? You can do this!!!

Lynzee - posted on 06/29/2016

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They have babies themselves... One is a little over 2 and the other is 4 months old. I feel better having her in my room right now because that way I can keep an eye on her and make sure everything is okay...I know that probably doesnt help the situation but still. It puts my mind at ease

Sofia - posted on 06/29/2016

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Here's what I have learned; my sanity is the most important. Could you please ask your relatives to stay in a hotel. You and baby need your own room now. Everyone, including yourself must put your needs first.

Sofia - posted on 06/29/2016

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I'm sorry for what you are going through. This is normal. To keep your sanity--I suggest for now that you co-sleep with baby in her room. Get a cot or small bed for you. That was the only thing that worked for us.

Lynzee - posted on 06/29/2016

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And yes she is teething she has two bottom teeth and I'm pretty sure the top two are trying to come in. We alternate Tylenol and ibuprofen.

Lynzee - posted on 06/29/2016

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I've also notice when its time for bed she gets really hyper and its almost like she's fighting her sleep. I would put her in her own room if we could but my dad and his wife and kids had to move in with me..so she has been in our room since she came home from the hospital.

Lynzee - posted on 06/29/2016

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If I don't feed her at night she wants to be re swaddled and she usually goes right back to sleep...but its the fact she never stays asleep maybe more than an hour or so..and I just get so frustrated not getting sleep I give in and put her in our bed..last night after feeding her a bottle and I was able to calm her down long enough to get her re-swaddled...she went to sleep and slept from 4 am to 10:30 am. I just not sure why she won't sleep all night..maybe she has her nights and days mixed up?

Sarah - posted on 06/29/2016

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Interesting, full belly seems like it would settle her down. When she gets up, can you settle her by rocking her and get her back in the crib? Why is she waking so often? Is she teething? Hungry?

Lynzee - posted on 06/29/2016

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I usually let my husband sleep since he has to work and I'm a. stay at home momma so I do all the staying up and taking care of her at night. And the few times Ive given her a bottle in the middle of the night it seems to wire her up. I wouldnt mind the co-sleeping if there was enough room for all three of us...my husband and my daughter are both bed hogs lol. You are so strong taking care of your baby on your own!!! Mayjor cudos to you Dove!!!

Dove - posted on 06/29/2016

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If you feel yourself getting that frustrated... hand her off to your husband or set her down in her crib and walk away for a few minutes.

I know it's exhausting when she is up so much... but that's what a lot of babies/young kids do... My son didn't sleep through the night til he was 2... and I've been single since the day he was born.

Does she nurse/take a bottle to get back to sleep? Bed sharing (if you all can sleep) can be a lifesaver.

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