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Monique - posted on 05/06/2015 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My 6 yr old Child is having Problems in school. She just doesn't want to do her work. She knows how to do it, just doesn't want to, I have had many meeting with her teacher hearing the same thing over and over,
- Wasting Time
-Disturbing other children
- talking/playing
-not following directions
My child is very smart. She can do her work at home with no problem. But just doesn't want to do her work at school. She has had things taken away, TV, play time, toys, etc. in school and at home but it doesn't seem to bother her...Any suggestions?

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Monique - posted on 05/06/2015

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Baaahahaaa...LOVE IT...

your right...I would hate to know she couldn't talk to me..we are very close.

but your totally right...

Thank you again!!! YOU ROCK!!!!

Candace - posted on 05/06/2015

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-grabs your face and squeezes- No, no, no!
Lol! You are the best mommy to your princess! Always remember that! You recognize and accept that something should change for the better. So you are doing perfectly! Reassure her that even when she messes up, you love, accept, and support her. Let her know young, that she can always talk to you about everything-set yourself up for an "easy" and open teenage relationship/experience. Then follow up with the serious mom face "But don't you test me little girl." Lol.
That's something I fear sometimes...too much punishment will just make him think, "If I don't tell her...if she doesn't find out then I won't get in trouble..." And then comes deceiving everybody...I don't want that.

You got this girl!

Monique - posted on 05/06/2015

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Wow...that's AWESOME Candace !!

I will try some of your tips I read. I told my kiddo this morning, if you have a great day at school and try hard, I am taking you to the park after I pick you up. I am a single mom and doing this alone is very stressful.. because I don't have a lot of help. ALL I want to do is blame myself because I cant seem to fix this..lol. Thank you for all your help. A lot of what you are describing with your son I see my little girl doing..

Candace - posted on 05/06/2015

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For my little guy, it was really more taking a step back and looking at how I was handling everything, myself. I felt like it's always just standard to feel, "Oh that's wrong, punishment! No this. No that." But I also saw that with that approach, with some kids you just don't get through to them. And to my son, it wasn't helping with anything, it kind of seemed to get worse because he was putting himself down as if he's a bad kid because he keeps getting "bad" results. If that makes sense. :-)
When his teachers would try and help him, he would shut down and stop responding and ask to go and sit on the carpet.
I took him to a park after school and had a talk with him. How was his day, how is he liking school, what is he learning new, etc. Then slowly started discussing what had been happening at school. Explained to him that the teachers love him and want to help him. Reassured him that he is a smart boy! His teachers are really smart, and with their help they can do anything! lol. I really had to sell it to him haha.

Idk, as with all things in motherhood. It's a learning experience, and a trial and error thing, too.

I told him to pick one thing that we can do every Monday (he chose to go to Smash Burger lol! We had to negotiate to ice cream at the park with an occasional trip to Smash Burger) after school as a way to start the week off well. It's an incentive to do well, and keep up his work.
I only say one day for him, because if it's everyday he'll take it for granted and it'll get old quick.


Telling him that mommy needs him to learn things (counting money, telling time, how to spell, etc.) to be able to help me for when I "forget" helps him, too. He gets a kick out of helping me when I say I forget things.

Monique - posted on 05/06/2015

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Candice, Thank you for responding. Its good to know I am not the only one.
My little ones problem is reading. She can read. very well in fact to be 6. but I did find out that one thing that has changed recently was that she had/has story books with pictures, bight colorful pictures. but her teacher has been given these sheet of paper with no pictures and one long story. they have questions to answer after it.. Ex..one story was about something in Africa. One of her questions was: where did this story take place? my kiddo answered England.
. my kiddo says, momma its just so long....
Yes --I asked daily ...is something going on at school? (This has been going on since last Thursday April 30th) Im getting notes sent home dailyyyy.... UGH...
why aren't you doing your work?
whats happened?
Has anything changed?
(I FEEL shes burnt out...here it is 3 weeks until school ends...shes passing YAY! but ....)
Ive asked the teacher the same thing. and she says, she just doesn't want to do it. she wants to play..(Yeah, no help!)

What you said about your son seeing other kids play... I wonder if that's what my kiddos doing. What did you do? is he doing better?

Candace - posted on 05/06/2015

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Hey Monique!

I had a similar situation with my son a couple of weeks ago. The task at hand was a handout at school, counting by 5s to 100, and the next day 10s to 200. He refused to write anything down, but when asked to recite, he flies through it.

Have you tried a different approach? Aside from punishment type (i.e. taking away TV time, etc)? Been able to sit with her and ask her if anything is different at school?

What I found with my little one, (according to him of course) some of the other kids would finish the assignments faster than him and play afterwards at the table. He would feel left out, in his mind, he figured "If I don't do it, I will be 'finished' and can play sooner." His teacher did mention this as well. So it helped with our fixing it and helping him going forward.

We are all learning on the job! As soon as we get the hang of it...it changes!

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