School Shopping

Shawnacali882 - posted on 07/28/2016 ( 11 moms have responded )

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We have my step daughter every 2 weeks on and off. We are thinking of getting her a school backpack for each home, is this a good or bad idea? Has anyone done this?

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Jodi - posted on 07/28/2016

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I still don't think you are understanding that separate bags are probably not going to be practical. Do they do home readers? Do they do homework diaries? They are the kind of things that you CAN'T duplicate in each home, so it is still going to be a pain an the butt.

As I said, maybe it is time for the parents to grow up and sort it out? I mean, really? Over school bags?

Dove - posted on 07/28/2016

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Both homes should have an equal amount of clothes and supplies... because these things belong to the child... not the parent that the child is staying with. The child should be able to wear whichever clothes she wants at either home and if something is ruined... either the parents split the cost of replacing it or whoever she is w/ at the time replaces it. Assuming both parents are grown ups, but it kind of doesn't sound like that is the case. Perhaps a court order needs to be amended spelling out a few of these details?

I do not know if her first grade class will have them bringing home their binders and stuff on weekends or not. I know in my son's second grade class last year they had a journal thing that came home on Fridays for the parents to read and sign and return on Monday. If that is the type of situation that she will have then it seems as if having two backpacks for school would add stress to the child to have to transfer certain items between both bags every other week. Hopefully both parents can work something out because this kid has a lot more years in school.

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Michelle - posted on 07/29/2016

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Like we keep saying, having 2 school bags is NOT practical. If the child is just going to transfer the things inside into each bag then why bother, she can just take the whole bag instead.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/28/2016

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Having two school bags will only cause confusion and result in the possibility of lost assignments, etc.

How come this child's parents are being so difficult? It's better to cooperate and co parent rather than stressing out the poor kid about what is at mom's house or dad's?

Shawnacali882 - posted on 07/28/2016

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Both houses have equal everything as we each have her two weeks at a time. That's why when she comes to our house she puts the clothes in a bag and then puts the same ones on when she leaves in 2 weeks so both houses aren't mixing items up. But that's what I struggle with on this whole thing is her having to transfer items to each bag. This year for 1st grade may not be too big of a deal but as she grows older the grades become more complicated than just carrying pens or crayons. Well I'll just have to see what happens and hope we get this figured out with the least stress possible.

Shawnacali882 - posted on 07/28/2016

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Both parents would be purchasing separate supplies for each home. She is 6, she's going into 1st grade.We switch every 2 weeks on a Friday after school. So when she comes from one home she puts her clothes and things away for when she leaves the next time.

Michelle - posted on 07/28/2016

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But having 2 school bags isn't practical. She will need things in there at both houses. What day is your changeover day?

Jodi - posted on 07/28/2016

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How old is the child?

The fact is, there will be things that the school supplies that she needs in her bag every day, so it's probably more of a headache to sort that out and have to organise what needs to come out of her bag at her other parent's home and be brought to yours for school than it is just to bring a school bag.

It sounds like the parents (one or both) just need to grow up.

Shawnacali882 - posted on 07/28/2016

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It's always been a headache with the other parent on bringing items to our house or if something is ruined who replaces it, when she comes from her other home she has to bag up her clothes and not wear them until she leaves in 2 weeks. So we're trying to avoid the conflict on these issues and keep everything separate.

Jodi - posted on 07/28/2016

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I don't see the point in it. In fact, it makes more sense to stick with one bag. Just as an example, what if she has a book she has borrowed from the library in her bag at one house and needs to return? Does this mean if she has a homework book she can't return her homework if she is at the other house?

Michelle - posted on 07/28/2016

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She can take her bag to each home, she doesn't need 2 of them.
I have always made sure I have had uniforms here and then they have a set at their Dad's as well.
Why are you wanting 2 school bags?

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