Screaming to bed

Kristin - posted on 02/01/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Just before bed time, i do our usual routine with my six month old son. I change his diaper, put on his jammies, read Good Night Moon, then nurse him. he always falls asleep while i nurse him at night. well when he stops eating, i wait for about ten minutes before i try to move him. when i pick him up he is still sleeping, when i walk across the room he is still sleeping. when i lay him down he wakes up and starts screaming. i rub his little head and rub his tummy, sing, and softly talk to him. he doesn't stop. i leave the room and he will cry for the next 45 minutes to an hour before he settles down and sleeps.

anyone else have this problem? is there a better way to transition him into laying down with out screaming?

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Don't let him eat himself asleep. keep him awake and when you do put him to bed he will be awake. He will have to get used to going to bed this way but in the long run it will be easier for both of you. I would also suggest a pacifier. You can easily get rid of it in a few months if need be but if he takes it for bedtimes only then it may be a solution for now. Of course you can go in every 10-15 minutes and give him a snuggle but don't say anything to him. keep it as quiet as possible when you do and after a minute put him back down and leave the room. (this never worked for us but for some it does)

Blackwood - posted on 02/01/2011

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How about sleeping with his bedding for a nite or so, so he smells you. If you are not info co-sleeping I would try to get him used to his crib and try to put him down while he is still away. You could get something that reflects on the ceiling for him too fall asleep too. It so hard when they don't sleep, but remember if you are not getting sleep as well, to catch it when you can becuz it's very important for your body to rest as well. I used a swaddle blanket for my son and this helped until he figured how too get out of it. So many battles with sleep and if you do finally figure out a way, along comes teething, needles and food habit to mess with it all over again. Best of luck

Nicole - posted on 02/01/2011

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As long as I knew he was okay and could hear him clearly through the monitor, I would let him go 45 minutes before going in to check on him. It seemed like me going in made it worse, like when you would pick up your son. Once the noise stopped, I snuck in to check on him. I hated having to listen to him cry but I knew that it was the only thing that was going to work for him. You do what you need to do- months from now, he will have changed so much anyway!

Kristin - posted on 02/01/2011

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thanks ladies. i'll try a later bed time and switching up the routine.
i want to be clear, i don't let him cry for an hour without checking on him. i go to him about every ten minutes and comfort him by rubbing his tummy and telling him everything is ok. i don't pick him up though. i use to do that but it just seemed like he got a little rest before i put him back down and he screamed even louder.

thanks again ladies.

Nicole - posted on 02/01/2011

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Yes! I had this problem! As soon as his body isn't against yours, they feel it and wake up! In my experience, it was best to lay him in his crib BEFORE he fell asleep- sure there's crying but it dwindled each night. Maybe switching up the order of our routine might help so that he's awake when you lay him down. Learning how to put himself to sleep will save all this crying time eventually.



Perhaps, diaper, jammies, nurse then read or nurse first then do everything else? It sounds like he has just gotten used to YOU getting him to sleep so he's not learning how to fall asleep on his own yet. Again, this is all just in my experience.



Our successful routine was nurse, bath, jammies/diaper, read, sleep. He got used to falling asleep on me and once I switched it up and stayed consistent with this routine, it took three days of crying at bedtime. Then he went to sleep beautifully after that. It may take more than a few days but being consistent will only help. Good luck!



BTW: We LOVE Goodnight Moon! Oh! And crying for 45 min to an hour is not going to damage your baby in any way- I asked our pediatrician about it when our son was crying at night and he said it would not hurt him. He told us that as long as there was nothing else wrong (diaper rash, sickness, etc.) crying is normal.

Dora - posted on 02/01/2011

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Try changing his bed time to a 1/2 hr later. Also try not to let him fall asleep in our arms because when you put him down he won't feel your comforting touch and that will wake him up. I recommend to follow your bedtime routine, when he is done talk to him, give him hugs and kisses and then put him in bed while still awake. Don't leave him there to cry for 45 minutes to an hour. That is way too long. Pick him up and comfort him again. You want him to feel relaxed about sleeping in his crib. Once he comes down then out him in his crib again. You may have to do this over and over again at first but eventually he should adjust to it and go to sleep the first time you put him down. Also try playing a children's music CD when he is in his crib. Choose something relaxing and that should help him. My son is 2 1/2 and I still use a children's CD when putting him to sleep. He will listen to it and fall asleep. Another thing if he is teething then laying flat on his back may be causing him some ear pain. I learned that from my son's pediatrician.

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