Screaming when waking up!!!

Anna-marie - posted on 02/07/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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Hi ladies,



my problem is this...



EVERYTIME and i mean everytime my 15 month old is put for a nap or a sleep he wakes up screaming!!



the naps i understand he's waking up tired..

but every morning its the same, around 5am he'll scream soooooooooo loud.

the problem is me..

since i can rememeber and now, when this happens, i go in and give him a bottle..

i have made a rod for my own back, as now, he thinks thats the way to get it..



i'm unsure on how to break this cycle, can anyone offer any advice please??



it would be lovely one morning NOT to be woken up by a child who sounds like the world is ending!! :)



thanks

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Michelle - posted on 02/07/2011

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does he have words yet, encourage him to call mommy instead of screaming. We make our daughter say milk please because she can and then we give her what she is asking for. I still get a little cry in the morning but then she calls for mommy and says I'm up. Hope this helps.

Bonnie - posted on 02/07/2011

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He could be going through separation anxiety. He wakes up alone and sees no one around.

Lissa - posted on 02/07/2011

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Firstly I would try good night time routine, bath, story and cuddle bed. What time is he going to bed? Maybe you should try keeping him up 15 minutes later for a few nights then adding on another 15 minutes etc and see if he wakes up later than 5a.m. Stop with the bottles, if he begins to wake up at a more reasonably time just get up and get breakfast with milk in a sippy cup.
If he still continues to wake at 5 I would offer him water in a sippy cup, tuck him back in and rub his back to soothe him but no picking him up, talking or eye contact. When he has calmed just take a step away with your back to him wait a few minutes if he still ok take another few steps until you are out of the room. You have to do whatever you are comfortable with but I would cut out the bottle for a cup now.

Lissa - posted on 02/07/2011

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Does he do this to get the bottle or did you start giving him the bottle because he did it?
My youngest was a terrible sleeper he woke 7-10 times a night for the first year, 5 ish times in the second year and at least once a night until he was almost 5. He too opened his eyes and screamed a blood curdling scream for 30 seconds every time until he was around 18 months then he just stopped. I never knew why he did it and nothing I did stopped it.

Jessica - posted on 02/07/2011

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is he waking up in the same room as when he went to sleep? What I mean is....are you rocking / holding him until asleep then putting them down in his crib for the rest of the nap? Going to sleep in moms arms and waking up alone is scary..........just a thought. You may just have to let him cry it out once or twice........just so that he gets the point that crying and screaming doesn't always get him what he wants. Other than that I am at a loss....

Good luck to you and your little one!!

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Anna-marie - posted on 02/07/2011

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yes, i think thats what i'm going to have to do..

we have an awesome routine, we have had since he was very little..
he goes to bed at 6 most nights, depends what time his afternoon nap was.
he has a bath and then bed with a bottle.

i can and have tried keeping him up later but he still wakes up at 5am, but is even more tired, so 6pm it usually is.

the thing is, when i do go and console him, he'll be fine when i'm in the room, as soon as i leave, the blood curdling screaming starts again.. he gets himself so wound up, thats why i give him the bottle, i know it calms him down and sends him back to sleep.

but i think you're right about the morning bottle, it needs to go.

thankyou so much for your advice x

Anna-marie - posted on 02/07/2011

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Lissa, thanks for that

he did it and the only thing that calmed him down was the bottle.. so now, when he screams, he thinks thats the way to get the bottle and its driving me MAD!!!

but like i say, its my own fault, i just dont know how to stop it..
all i can think of is just ignoring the cries, but it is HORRIBLE!!! like you say, its a blood curdling scream, same time every morning..

this morning it was at 5am.. i gave him the bottle and he went back to sleep, its now 6.45am.

do you reckon i should just get him up at 5am when he screams, play with him for a while, then give him a bottle??
he obviously needs more sleep though.. i just don't know what to do :( xx

Anna-marie - posted on 02/07/2011

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Thanks Jessica.



he is always in his own room, same cot, same everything..

he goes to sleep by himself. he's pretty good that way..

i wish i could hold him.. i miss that



i know its my fault, but the screaming is horrible, it sounds like its the end of the world..

maybe i should cut out that morning bottle that way, he cannot scream for it..



thanks again for the advice x

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