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I have been in my step daughters life since the day she was born. husband and i got married a few months before she was born, but i was in his life a year prior except a couple months when we had a break and his daughter was concieved. So I didn't really talk to BM in the beginning a whole lot. We did become friendly and on talking terms and when SD started talking she starting calling me mommy, my husband had no problem with it seeing as how we both have step parents and call our step parents mom and dad. and we also knew who our Birth Parents were. Step mom eventually allowed it as well, and would tell her that She is mommy at her house and I am mommy at daddys house. But when she and my husband got into an arguement and she was also mad at my for bringing the problem to my husbands attention, she decided that she didn't want my step daughter calling me mom anymore, so she learned my name. Ive asked step daughter now why she stopped calling me mom, and she said because her mommy said no and she will get in trouble. that She will get spanked and that I'm not her mommy. My husband tells her that I am also her mom, that she just wasnt in my belly.
do you think it was wrong for bio mom to agree to her calling me mom and then taking it back because she got mad? and now spanking her if she does call me mom?
I understand now that her calling me mom is going to get her in trouble so I don't really mind that she calls me my name, and I can't really control what mom does or says.