searching a child's room

Erin - posted on 12/16/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hello I'm new here.

I do not have a teenager yet but someday. One question though is a fine line between privacy and searching a room. When is it necesary and does a parent have a right? Just wondering.

I have a million and a half more questions. :)


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Erin - posted on 12/16/2013




Thank you for the answers. And no I don't plan on laying out every step lol. Just was wondering about that and I just have questions ill ask throughout the future.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 12/16/2013




This is something you address as needed.

My kids never needed to have their rooms searched, but my kids knew how to be honest with me, and neither of them were good liars anyway, so everything was out in the open from the get go.

Once in awhile I did supervise a room cleaning or two, and asked questions of a few items found, but in general? Never needed.

Do you plan on laying out your kid's life in step by step manner? LOL...Because I'll tell you now, you'll go crazy if you try! Having a basic plan in place is one thing, but trying to plan for every contingency that can happen whilst raising kids...well, just don't drive yourself batty!

Jodi - posted on 12/16/2013




It depends on the intention and what you are searching for? I think if it is something that is potentially jeopardising our child's safety, and you have exhausted every other avenue (i.e. talking to your child openly) then yes, you have the right. But I do think it is a fine line. I have a 16 year old and have never once searched his room (and believe me, the pig sty he keeps it in, it would take quite some searching). I value his privacy, and I have no need to. If I want to know something I ask.

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