searching for baby boy diagnosed with gastroschesis born healthy on 10/24/2000 in birmingham, al.

Mashiea - posted on 04/16/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My name is Mashiea Devine and I live in Hartselle, al. I know this may seem strange, so please don't judge me, but on 10/24/2000 I had a son Kalynn who was diagnosed with gastroschesis early on in my pregnancy. I was traveling to Birmingham hospital at least 2 times per month to be seen by doctor's to monitor my pregnancy. At the time what I didn't know was there was another mother there at the same time dealing with the same issues with her pregnancy as I was. To make a long sad story short. Our babies were due the same day in November, both boys, both boys born a month early on the same day 10/24/2000, and unfortunately I did not make it to Birmingham to deliver my son as planned. my son died approximately 2-4 days in my womb prior to his birth. While I was delivering my son through C- Section at Decatur General the brave mother of the other baby was delivering her son in Birmingham who was born completely healthy. A miracle some may say. I discovered this while watching a news report show after the passing of my son, and saw the mother on a news show sometime in January- march of 2001. The report gave me some peace. In my heart I know that GOD had to sacrifice my son so the other mother's son could live and I accept that, because in my heart I know that child had a plan to fulfill for our father and savior. I left Alabama after the death of my son to not return until 2012 and I am somewhat struggling being back home after my loss. My husband suggested I try to find this child and mother to see how he is doing. he should be 13 years old now. I just want to know how well he is doing. I feel this child has my son's soul. I would love to meet him and mom just to tell them how blessed and wonderful he is. In some strange way sometimes I think it would give me some closure. if anyone knows this family or has any idea how I can go about finding the mother and child please respond. No weirdo stuff just a mother still morning the loss of her child for 13 years and still counting.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/16/2014

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I am sorry for you loss. That must have been quite traumatic for you. I wish you luck, but please understand you have conjured an emotional tie to this other child, and it may not be well received. I say this with the utmost respect and empathy, you should really seek grief counseling if you have not already. Best of luck to you and your husband.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/16/2014

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WOW! You are easy to talk to. I don't need to be a psychiatrist to see you need help. That would be obvious to anyone. I see that you are hurting. I see that you are searching to see if someone elses baby survived the same illness that your child died from. I see the pain. Don't take it out on me lady. Cause clearly you have not had closure and that is what you are searching for. You don't want peoples opinions or advice? Don't post on an open forum. You said that you feel this child "has your son's soul". You don't think that warrants grief counseling?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/16/2014

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Just like you will comment and post where you like, so will everyone else on this forum. You cannot pick and choose who comes to your post.

Once again, sincerely good luck. I hope you find closure and help in your venture.

Mashiea - posted on 04/16/2014

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oh and by the way it is obvious to me that you have no spirituality cause if you did maybe you could possibly understand what I mean, but since you don't than you can't

Mashiea - posted on 04/16/2014

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look I didn't post this because I wanted a debate with ignorant people, nor do I even care to further entertain this bs. I can and will post whatever I like. I did not ask for any advice from anyone in this forum regarding referrals for a psychiatrist, just was hoping someone may have a clue as to how I can locate this family. If I wanted anyone's advice on whether or not I have some mental illness I would seek a professional, and you are not that. stay off my page and please do not comment to me any further.

Mashiea - posted on 04/16/2014

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I am sorry I missed the part where you were giving me your professional advice from a psychiatrists stand point. Thanks, but no thanks. The only thing that I have conjured up in my head is that 13 years ago a woman in Birmingham was due to have a very ill baby such as I was and her trauma is just as traumatic and sad as mine and during that time if we would have crossed paths maybe some things would be different today and I would not be on here responding to this non sense. that mother's story finished with the happy ending and I was not as fortunate. I am not looking to stalk, steal or do anything that could remotely be considered as hurtful, misleading or mentally or emotionally tragic for this child I just would like to know that he is good and is still thriving. I just feel this would give me a lot more relief. if you have never lost a child or have not went to school and received a degree relating to psychiatric medicine, do not attempt to diagnose me I am a medical professional and your help is not received in this way. To anyone who is not giving me advice on how to locate the parents of this baby then please do not respond to me with negative judgments then try to down play your rudeness by finishing off with a good luck, my empathies or condolences. I am not crazy and I do realize this was 13 years ago, but until you have walked a mile in my shoes stay in your lane while wearing your shoes.

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