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Christina Michelle - posted on 07/15/2016 ( 19 moms have responded )

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My 13 year old daughter is madly in love with a 19 year old man. They want to meet up tomorrow. Not sure what to do. But her grand dad said that he would take her. Should I let her go or not?

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Nellynunes148 - posted on 07/17/2016

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No you do not allow your child to go out with a man. What would a 19 year old have in common with a 13 year old?

Jodi - posted on 07/16/2016

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I read her other post shortly after I posted here - yes, she is the teen herself.

Kari - posted on 07/16/2016

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Absolutely no way, no how in a million years would I ever even consider letting her go. She is 13 years old!

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/16/2016

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You have admitted that you are the tween in question. Confide in an actual adult such as a school counselor or pastor. They will help you get the help you need.

Sheila - posted on 07/16/2016

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I do think the teen posted this herself but I replied just
in case it was actually her mother.

Sarah - posted on 07/16/2016

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Sheila, this is posted by the same teen that feels suicidal about not seeing the 19yo boy. It is not her mother asking.

Sheila - posted on 07/16/2016

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Please don't let her here go! The potential for rape is high. Whoever takes her to his house is aiding abuse of a minor and the boy is risking a statutory rape charge-jail time for both adults is a sure thing. Please let this guy know if he sees your daughter, you will report him to the police. You're her mother and it your DUTY as a parent to protect her (or your knowledge of this situation could set you up for legal charges, too). Please get your child some counseling asap. Please understand, I know you love your child or you would not have posted this. You are rightly confused and upset abou this! I hope this reply helps you. Hugs

Dove - posted on 07/16/2016

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So... parenting your young teen and avoiding being a grandma w/in a year is not important to you, huh?

I'm thinking you have got to be a teen, a troll, or you desperately needed someone to teach you how to parent a few years ago... and missed out.

No 13 year old should be even contemplating dating. No 13 year old should ever have the opportunity to be 'madly in love' w/ a 19 year old. No 19 year old guy should look at a 13 year old girl as anything more than a 'little sister' type of friendship. Both of the people in this equation have issues that need to be dealt with urgently. What is your teenager lacking in her life that makes her think this is OK? What is her relationship w/ her father like?

Jodi - posted on 07/16/2016

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What sort of mother even contemplates their 13 year old daughter meeting up with a 19 year old? Seriously? Why are you even considering this? Is her grandfather part of some pedophile ring or something?

Christina Michelle - posted on 07/15/2016

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Thelma, I think that beating a child isn't a good thing. you should've sent him to his room. And if he didn't listen then tell him that you will start taking things away from him. Yes he might say that he hates you or go and get mad and throw a fit, but hey, its just parenting. You want your children to grow up with good manners. i'm not saying that you're parenting is bad I'm just saying that you want your children to grow up and have good manners. But you really should stop beating him up, send him to his room, and then wait 5 minutes for him to cool off, and then go into his room, and talk about what he did wrong. That why he will have good manners and he will also know what's wrong and what's right

Thelma - posted on 07/15/2016

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My 3 years old son doesn't listen to me when I talk to him ,I used to beat him but I saw dat it's making him stubborn,whenever I asked him not to do something he does exactly dat .he doesn't listen at all .
I am so tired I don't know what to do anymore his teacher was helping me but nothing changed and whenever we visit people if we find them eating he cries for their food
I've tried to be the best mom but now am loosing my temper when he does his things.
I need help

Sarah - posted on 07/15/2016

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Hell NO! That is completely inappropriate! How did she even meet this man and why on earth is he even interested in a 13yo girl? She is way too young to date even someone her own age.
What sort of fool is grandpa, that he'd take his grandchild to see a man 6 years her senior?

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